Coaching Culture with Ben Herring

• Why Treating Parenting Like Coaching Creates Stronger Families And Teams

  What if the best parenting lessons come from the locker room—and the sharpest coaching insights come from home? I share how a sudden end to a playing career and the birth of my first child collided, starting a sixteen-year stretch where coaching and parenting ran in parallel and taught me the same truths about growth, standards, and care.We unpack tough love the right way: not harshness, but honest care with clear expectations. I explain how to deliver hard feedback without breeding resentment—whether it’s a non-selection talk with an athlete or a boundary with a teenager—by building real rapport before you need it. You’ll hear simple rituals that make a big difference, like one-on-one walks, hot chocolate chats, and pre-practice conversations about life that signal, I see you and I’ve got your back. When people know you care, facts can be heard even when feelings run hot.Tone control becomes the secret weapon. If you yell all the time, no one hears you when it counts. If you vary your delivery and save your strongest voice for true urgency, your words land. I share practical ways to build that range—yes, even Toastmasters—so your voice works like an instrument, not a siren. From there, we focus on culture: creating environments that invite ownership, encourage experimentation, and make people proud to be part of the team. The target is simple and bold—be the coach or parent they’re proud of, not because you were easy, but because you were fair, consistent, and deeply invested in their growth.If you’re raising kids, leading athletes, or both, this conversation gives you a usable framework: build rapport, shape tone, and lead for long-term pride. If something here sparked a shift for you, subscribe, share this with a friend, and tell me what you’ll try this week. Your reflection might become the next topic—drop me a message on LinkedIn and let’s keep growing together.Send us a textIf you can SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and SHARE the show and series, you would be doing your bit to grow this show. Very appreciated. BenTo subscribe to the newsletter or to get a copy of the book, jump onto:www.coachingculture.com.au Support the showShare this show with your mates, rugby, coaches, leaders! Dont be shy.

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• Sam Wykes: Building Team Culture Through People, Not Facilities. A Sunwolves Casestudy.

  What if the best culture you ever built came after a 90-point loss? That’s not a stunt—it’s the backbone of our Sunwolves story, where people, not facilities, carried an underdog through brutal travel, language barriers, and constant roster churn.We dig into a season that forced clarity. With 13 cultural backgrounds and minimal prep, we taught through images and objects, opened meetings with music, and played noughts-and-crosses to train communication and poise. We asked players to share three personal facts so the room saw humans first, jerseys second. Then we redefined success: not chasing wins we couldn’t control, but tracking meaningful improvement across four-week blocks—smaller losing margins, more tries created, defensive effort counted honestly. After a tough day at Loftus, we sang the team song anyway, then beat the Bulls weeks later in Tokyo. That wasn’t luck; it was a deliberate culture choice.You’ll hear how leadership language shapes buy-in, why “aces in their places” prevents personality overload, and how individualized coaching can turn a senior skeptic into your strongest messenger. We talk coach self-awareness under stress—who runs to novelty, who doubles down on basics—and how blending both keeps a team stable. And we follow Sam’s journey beyond pro rugby into Polynesian youth pathways, where identity and skill development meet. When young players see role models who share their blood and story, their effort deepens and their ceiling rises.If you lead a team in sport, business, or anywhere people perform under pressure, this conversation is a playbook: actions over slogans, rituals that lower stress, success defined by improvement, and connection that outlives the scoreboard. If this resonated, subscribe, share it with a coach or teammate, and leave a review telling us your favorite culture ritual—we’ll feature the best on a future show.Send us a textIf you can SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and SHARE the show and series, you would be doing your bit to grow this show. Very appreciated. BenTo subscribe to the newsletter or to get a copy of the book, jump onto:www.coachingculture.com.au Support the showShare this show with your mates, rugby, coaches, leaders! Dont be shy.

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• Define Culture Or Drift: Why Writing It Down Raises The Bar

  Ever wonder why some teams lift their standards from the inside while others grind for results that never stick? We dig into a simple chain that explains it: vision shapes leadership, leadership shapes culture, culture shapes performance, and performance shapes legacy. The magic happens in the middle. Culture isn’t a side project or a mood; it’s the daily environment that leaders design on purpose.We start by contrasting two visions—a high-performance push to top the table versus a community-first club built on belonging—and show how each vision demands different leadership moves. Hiring, coaching time, facilities, and budget flow from that choice. From there, we reframe culture as a practical lab. Think petri dish: add rituals, language, and standards, then observe what grows. When the inputs are right, the bar rises organically. People show up early, do the small things without being asked, and solve problems together. That’s culture turning into performance.You’ll hear crisp one-line definitions from elite coaches—“the way we do things around here,” “what we do when no one’s watching,” “the values and standards we operate by”—and why writing your own line is the fastest way to make culture real. We share how top teams schedule culture like training, from mini-team competitions to short connection drills, and how those reps turn intentions into habits. The yogurt analogy ties it all together: start with the right culture starter, and the environment transforms into something stronger and more resilient across sport, work, and home.Walk away with a clear mission: write your culture in one sentence, put it on the calendar, and live it loudly enough that it becomes contagious. If the vision is your North Star, this is your compass. If this helped you see your team with fresh eyes, subscribe, share it with a leader who needs it, and leave a quick review—what’s your one-line definition of culture?Send us a textIf you can SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and SHARE the show and series, you would be doing your bit to grow this show. Very appreciated. BenTo subscribe to the newsletter or to get a copy of the book, jump onto:www.coachingculture.com.au Support the showShare this show with your mates, rugby, coaches, leaders! Dont be shy.

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• Ben Darwin: You Can't Out Coach the Numbers. Heres the Data to Prove it.

  Ever notice how the “genius coach” story never mentions the stacked deck? We dig into the Monopoly Effect—a coin-flip advantage that people later mistake for skill—and use it to decode why some teams look unstoppable while others keep rebuilding without getting better. With Ben Darwin of Gain Line Analytics, we map the hidden architecture of performance: feeder systems that quietly lower error rates, stable combinations that turn instincts into shared reflex, and board decisions that either protect or pulverize cohesion.We walk through real examples across rugby, league, and football: why single-feeder clubs dominate, how national sides thrive when selections cluster, and what happens when a decorated coach imposes a new system on a group that hasn’t unlearned the old one. The data is blunt and liberating. Money can buy talent, but instability taxes skill; cohesion compounds for free. Copying champions often fails because you’re importing their adaptation to a weakness you don’t have. Better questions lead to better builds: Which links in our decision chain must stay together? Where do we refine the existing grammar instead of rewriting the playbook? What timeline are we truly managing—this week’s optics or next season’s reflexes?If you lead a team, this conversation gives you a framework to stop overreacting to luck, set-piece swings, and noisy narratives. You’ll learn how to stabilize fast without going static, communicate realistic timelines to anxious boards, and measure progress beyond the scoreboard. The takeaway is simple and hard: sustain combinations, shrink chaos, and let cohesion do what talent alone can’t. If this resonates, share it with a colleague, hit follow, and leave a review to help more coaches and leaders find it.Send us a textIf you can SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and SHARE the show and series, you would be doing your bit to grow this show. Very appreciated. BenTo subscribe to the newsletter or to get a copy of the book, jump onto:www.coachingculture.com.au Support the showShare this show with your mates, rugby, coaches, leaders! Dont be shy.

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• How to reduce the anxiety your players feel

  The fastest way to unlock performance isn’t a new drill or a sharper playbook—it’s lowering the mental noise your athletes carry in with them. We share a simple story from a doctor’s office that proves how precise care changes state without changing a single variable on the whiteboard. That shift in state turns scattered attention into readiness, and readiness into better outcomes.We walk through why care is not a soft extra but a performance lever. When players feel seen beyond the jersey, they take smarter risks at training, tell the truth in review, and compete with freedom on game day. You’ll hear three simple, repeatable actions you can use tonight, whether you coach pros, school teams, or weekend warriors: start with the person, not the plan; name and normalize the pressures in the room; and close the loop within 48 hours so players feel remembered, not managed. These moves don’t cost time; they buy focus.Along the way, we talk about owning the feel of the environment, reading arrivals, and adjusting your session openers to meet real human energy. We highlight why presence is a skill, how good questions are data, and why psychological safety accelerates learning. Nothing flashy—just small, consistent signals that compound into trust. Over time, those signals build resilient people and better teams, even when the drills stay the same. State before outcome becomes the rule, and performance follows.If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with a coach who cares, and leave a quick review telling us which of the three actions you’ll try first. Your feedback helps more coaches find these tools.Send us a textIf you can SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and SHARE the show and series, you would be doing your bit to grow this show. Very appreciated. BenTo subscribe to the newsletter or to get a copy of the book, jump onto:www.coachingculture.com.au Support the showShare this show with your mates, rugby, coaches, leaders! Dont be shy.

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