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There’s no single type of submissive, and Fifty Shades only ever showed you one narrow version of it. So this week, I brought kink consultant Amanda Dames back to break down every kind of sub there is, and help you figure out which one you are.
There’s the brat who talks back just to get caught. The little who wants to be taken care of. The service sub, the pleasure sub, the rope bunny, the pay pig, and the slave. Some of these will surprise you. At least one will probably make you go, “wait, that’s me.”
By the end, you’ll know what kind of sub you are, how to find the right dom for you, and how to keep yourself safe doing it. (And yes, I finally tell the story about vetting a potential dom that ended with me realizing I could have been on a date with Ted Bundy. It’s a wild one.)
In this episode:
What a submissive actually is, and how it’s different from a bottom
Can anyone be a sub? And what exactly is a switch?
Every type explained: rope bunny, little, caregiver, service, pleasure, financial, brat, and slave
Why you can be more than one type (and why boxing yourself in might be killing your sex life)
How to vet a dom, spot the red flags, and trust your gut
This is the companion to our Types of Doms episode, so if you haven’t heard that one, go grab it too. Together they’re your full map of dominance and submission.
Want the complete breakdown of every type, plus the full guide to vetting a dom safely? Read it here: https://talksexwithannette.com/episodes/types-of-doms/

Guest: Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, @the_kinkconsultant on Instagram, and host of The Kink Consultant Podcast.
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Every woman has one: the lover she still thinks about. The way he kissed her, the way he took his time, the way he looked at her like she was the only thing in the room. She’s probably never going to tell you what he actually did differently, so I will.
I asked women what the best lover they ever had actually did, then I checked their answers against the research, and they lined up almost every time. This is the real list, and not one thing on it is about size, lasting forever, or some move you saw in porn at 2 a.m. Every single one is a skill, which means any man can learn it.
In this episode:
Why the best lovers aren’t in a hurry (and what the research says about how long sex should actually last)
Why she remembers the kiss more than anything else
The “dirty mouth” skill, voice, sound, and words
Why great sex starts at 2 p.m., not 10 p.m.
The difference between a man who performs and a man who can’t get enough of her
How scent, grooming, and yes, your sheets, make or break the night
How to ask about her fantasies without flinching, then lead
Why laughing in bed makes her come easier
The listening skill that turns into desire
And the one thing that makes all of it possible: safety
Ladies, if you’re nodding the whole way through, send this to the special guy in your life so he’s not shooting in the dark. Fellas, pick one thing, learn it, and try it tonight.
Want the full written guide with all the research and every move spelled out? Read it on my website:
 🔥 https://talksexwithannette.com/
Episodes mentioned in this one (go deeper):
🔥 Praise Kink → https://youtu.be/4H80yuO93FQ
🔥 Edging →https://talksexwithannette.com/reviews/sex-toys/vibrators/hello-nancy-berri-review/
🔥 5 Ways to Dominate Her → https://youtu.be/srzHzTgkIxI
🔥 5 Spanking Fantasies She Has → https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/how-to-spank-her/
Where else to find me:
🌐 Website (all my videos, in-depth guides, and free tools): talksexwithannette.com
📸 Instagram: @annettebenedetti → https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/
📘 Facebook: @TalkSexWithAnnette → https://www.facebook.com/Talksexwithannette/
🎵 TikTok: @talksexwithannette → https://www.tiktok.com/talksexwithannette
And Substack: https://substack.com/@talksexwithannette
🔥 OnlyFans (demos + audio-guided self-pleasure meditations): @talksexwithannette 
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My YouTube channel is back, and I wanted to take a moment to really talk to you about what this whole experience taught me, and what’s coming next.
In this one I’m getting personal: the gratitude I feel for the way this community showed up for me at a low point, what actually got me in trouble, how things are changing going forward, and all the exciting things I’m building for you.
First things first, the most important thing you can do:
📩 Sign up for my e-newsletter →https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c
Here’s why it matters more than ever: platforms come and go (we just learned that the hard way together), but my newsletter is how I reach you no matter what. It’s where I send every episode, every new guide, every free tool, and all the how-tos that can’t live on YouTube. If you only do one thing, do this, so we never lose each other again.
In this episode:
The gratitude I needed to say out loud, to you, and to the people who showed up
What actually got me in trouble (real talk about OnlyFans and platform suppression)
How my YouTube content is changing, and why my website is now home to everything
The free tools I’m building so you can explore your desires after every episode
A few teases of what’s coming: travel content, a survivor-centered resource, and more
A huge thank you to the people who showed up for me:
My PR team at Little Leaf Agency (Sarah, Michael, Taylor, and Naima), and the sex educators and past guests who went to bat for me, including Susan Bratton (who helped shepherd my channel back, I love you, Susan), the Intimacy Alliance, Caitlin V, Dr. Tara, Heron Bigman, Dr. Deborah Katz, and past guests Luna Matatas, Amanda Dames (The Kink Consultant), Samia Mounts, and Girls Gone Deep.
Where else to find me:
🌐 Website (all my videos, in-depth guides, and free tools): talksexwithannette.com
📸 Instagram: @annettebenedetti → https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/
📘 Facebook: @TalkSexWithAnnette → https://www.facebook.com/Talksexwithannette/
🎵 TikTok: @talksexwithannette → https://www.tiktok.com/talksexwithannette
And Substack: https://substack.com/@talksexwithannette
🔥 OnlyFans (demos + audio-guided self-pleasure meditations): @talksexwithannette 
Send me your ideas, your questions, and the things you wish I’d do differently, I’m heavily influenced by you, and I want to keep building this with you. (Yes, the rimming episode is officially on the calendar, because you asked.)
But seriously, before you do anything else: get on that newsletter. 📩 https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c It’s the one place we’ll never lose each other.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I love you all. Until next time, I’ll see you in the locker room. Cheers.
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Say "female-led relationship" and most people picture whips and chastity cages, but it's so much bigger than that, and most of it has nothing to do with kink. This week, licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri walks me through what a female-led relationship actually is: the four levels (from barely-there to full-time), the surprising benefits for BOTH partners, and exactly how to start one.
In this episode:
What a female-led relationship really is (and what it isn't)
Why it doesn't require any kink at all
The 4 levels of control, explained
The real benefits for men AND women (some genuinely surprising)
How to bring it up and start small
Want the full breakdown, all four levels, the benefits, and how to start? Read the complete guide: 🔥 What Is a Female-Led Relationship? The 4 Levels, Benefits, and How to Start: https://talksexwithannette.com/episodes/what-is-a-female-led-relationship/
Guest: Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Modern Intimacy, @drkatebalestrieri, host of Get Naked with Dr. Kate.
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Most men think turning a woman on is all about touch. But here’s the truth: you can make her turned on, wet, and craving you with words alone, before you ever lay a hand on her.
This week I’m breaking down exactly how to talk dirty to a woman the right way. Not the aggressive, porn-style lines that make her shut down, but the kind of words that actually build arousal, spark her imagination, and leave her aching for more. It’s not magic. It’s how women’s arousal really works, and once you get it, you can turn her on anytime, anywhere.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why women’s arousal is wired for words, imagination, and anticipation
The biggest dirty talk mistakes men make (and the simple fixes)
My 5-step framework to make her wet with words
Word-for-word scripts you can steal and use tonight
The “aftershock” trick the best seducers use to keep her craving you long after the moment ends
By the end, you’ll know how to turn her on with your voice alone, and have the exact words to do it.
Want the full framework, every script, and the mistakes to avoid, all written out so you can save it? Read the complete guide here: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/sex-techniques/how-to-talk-dirty-to-a-woman/
 
If you’re looking for a wing woman and cheerleader on your own intimacy journey, my coaching books are open, find out more at talksexwithannette.com.
Until next time, I’ll see you in the locker room. Cheers.
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