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Most people think dominance and submission means a dungeon full of gear, and they never get past the shopping list.
This week I'm showing you the part that actually builds the heat. This is a foundational episode with power-exchange couple Auntie Carmen, the Desire Midwife, and her dom Linwood, the "dom domestic" who cooks, runs the house, and hands the power right back to her. You almost never get both halves of a real D/S couple in one room being this honest, and they hold nothing back (there's a zucchini story you won't forget).
In this episode, I break down:
Why the feeling you're chasing matters way more than the gear, and how to name it
How to figure out what you actually want, even if you always say "I don't know"
The everyday rituals that keep the dynamic running all day long, no toys required
Dominance through service, and how to flip who's in charge
Why this is the fix for sex that's started to feel like one more job
The golden rules: consent, building slow, and never a cold spank
By the end, you'll have a real on-ramp into power exchange instead of a scary idea you never act on, and it's landing just in time for Kinktober.
Want to see the full conversation? The video version is on my website, and you can grab every toy, lube, and discount code I mention in my e-newsletter at talksexwithannette.com. My listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.
Guest: Auntie Carmen, the Desire Midwife, Find her at: https://shameproofyourdesires.com/
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Most people know exactly one way to touch a clit, and they run it into the ground.
This week I'm giving you twenty. This is the third in my clitoral pleasure set, right alongside my fingering guide and my yoni massage guide, and now that I'm off YouTube I get to be completely direct with you. No code, no tiptoeing, just the real, explicit how-to, from the softest warm-up all the way to the finish.
In this episode, I break down:
The indirect moves that get her off without ever touching the clit directly, including how to do it through her clothes
The direct strokes worth knowing by name: orbiting, broadening, the Hail Mary, tapping, grinding, rolling, and accenting
The one skill that separates a partner she tolerates from one she can't stop thinking about
The lubes and toys I actually recommend, and where a good vibrator changes the game
How to read her and stage every touch so she finishes, instead of hammering one move and hoping
By the end, you'll have a full toolkit instead of the one move you've been repeating, and you'll know how to give her the kind of orgasm she reschedules her whole week for.
Want to see these demonstrated? The visual version of this episode is on my website, and I demo several of them live over on my OnlyFans. Grab my discount codes and every lube and toy I mention in my e-newsletter at talksexwithannette.com. My listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.
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💦 20 Ways to Touch a Clit (The Full Guide)
💦 How to Finger Her (The Fingering Guide)
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Curious about male chastity but have no idea where to start? This one's your guide. My resident dominatrix Lucy is back, and for the first time she's on camera showing the gear, to walk us through Locktober: the month-long challenge of keeping a cock locked up.
We get into what male chastity actually is, why people love it (more affection, more anticipation, and yes, more chores getting done), and the part most people rush: how to choose a cage that actually fits without hurting anyone. Lucy breaks down the different cage types, the safety rules that are non-negotiable, keeping a key accessible, building up wear time slowly, watching for warning signs, and all the playful ways to keep both partners satisfied for a full month, from sheaths to teasing to handing over control for the day.
Whether you're cage-curious or ready to lock up for the whole month, you'll leave this episode knowing how to do Locktober safely and actually enjoy it.
In this episode:
What male chastity is and why couples try it
How to choose a cock cage that fits (and why fit is a safety issue)
Cage materials, from beginner plastic to surgical steel
The safety rules you don't skip
What to do all month besides wait
How to start if you're brand new
Watch the full episode and read the complete guide at talksexwithannette.com.  Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/locktober-male-chastity/
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🔒 How to Try Male Chastity (The Full Guide): https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/how-to-try-male-chastity/
🔒 The Male Chastity Buying Guide: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/male-chastity-buying-guide/
🔒The benefits of Male Chastity with Lilith: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/benefits-of-male-chastity/
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What if the hottest thing he could do for you was not come?
That's the whole dare of Locktober, and this week I'm walking you through male chastity from the ground up. It's one of the most misunderstood kinks out there, and also one of the most magnetic, because when you stop treating his orgasm as the finish line, sex turns into a shared playground and a whole lot of couples say they've never felt closer or more connected.
This one's for the curious on both sides of the lock: the person thinking about wearing the cage, and the one who wants to hold the key.
In this episode, I break down:
What chastity actually is, and why it's erotic power exchange, not punishment
The science of staying turned on: why denial keeps desire high instead of killing it
How to start safely, from mental chastity to your first cage, without hurting anything important
How key holders (usually the women) make it hotter, and why so many say it's the first time they felt truly prioritized
How to run a full Locktober, or just a weekend, your way
By the end, you'll know exactly how to try this without freaking out or messing it up, whether you want one night or all thirty days.
Want the cage sizing and buying guide? It's in my e-newsletter, along with my discount codes and every link you need. My listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. In fact, I'll be holding the key to it. Cheers.
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Want the full written guides? Read them here:
🔒 How to Try Male Chastity (The Full Guide): https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/how-to-try-male-chastity/
🔒 How to Do Locktober: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/locktober-male-chastity/
🔒 The Male Chastity Buying Guide: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/male-chastity-buying-guide/
🔒The benefits of Male Chastity with Lilith: https://talksexwithannette.com/advice/kink-bdsm/benefits-of-male-chastity/
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One of you wants sex. One of you doesn't. And somewhere along the way, that gap stopped being a difference and turned into a fight you keep having with your clothes on. Here's what nobody tells you: the gap was never the problem. It's the two stories you each start telling — one of you hears "you don't want me anymore," the other hears "you only want me for sex and you don't see everything I'm carrying." Both of you feel powerless. Both of you decide the other one is what's broken.
This week I sit down with Tarah and EJ Kerwin — a married couple, both licensed therapists, and co-founders of Relationship Renovation. They're living proof this is survivable: two people with all the clinical tools in the world who still spent the better part of a decade finding their way back to each other after four kids in eighteen months detonated the sex life they used to have. They're not here to tell you how many times a week you should be doing it. They're here to hand you the actual way back.
In this episode:
Why the fight is never really about frequency — and the quality shift that changes everything
The two stories high-desire and low-desire partners tell themselves, almost word for word
Why the low-desire partner secretly holds all the power — and why it feels terrible, not powerful
How to have the conversation without it turning into a fight (time, place, and the rules that keep it safe)
"Safety containers" — how to rebuild touch when sex feels like too much
Where to start tonight, and how to build back one step at a time
Come as you are, bring your partner if you've got one, and know this: there's a path back to each other if you both want it.
🎧 Find Tarah & EJ at relationshiprenovation.com and on the Relationship Renovation podcast relationshiprenovation.com/podcast. 
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Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!
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