On the heels of my last podcast, talking about intense chemistry and whether it’s a green or red flag, today I’m talking about the idea that relationships ought to be “SAFE”. I hear this word tossed around A LOT now. Everyone's talking about nervous system resetting and how SAFETY is the holy grail we all ought to apparently be looking for. I don’t think it’s safety we’re after. It’s something else entirely.Â
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Should Love Feel Safe?
On the heels of my last podcast, talking about intense chemistry and whether it’s a green or red flag, today I’m talking about the idea that relationships ought to be “SAFE”. I hear this word tossed around A LOT now. Everyone's talking about nervous system resetting and how SAFETY is the holy grail we all ought to apparently be looking for. I don’t think it’s safety we’re after. It’s something else entirely.Â
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Is Chemistry a Red Flag?
Is heart-fluttering chemistry necessary or is it "toxic"?Lately, I’ve heard some people say that chemistry is DANGEROUS! TOXIC! Run away! Red flag! Ridiculous. Tell me you’ve never had life-changing sex before without telling me. Chemistry is the reaction. The friction, the spark. You need it in order to create any kind of growth.“Meh” isn’t chemistry and “meh” isn’t going to change your life.In today’s episode: What is chemistry? Why it’s essential in every important relationship in your life  When chemistry actually can be a red flag Intensity and passion vs. “calm” in relationship Safety and risk in relationship: no risk, no reward? The ideal conditions for relationship alchemy “But we’re such good buddies! We make such good partners!” Yeah, but are you fucking each other? Ever?The root causes of reproductive issuesÂ
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Why I've Never Dated
I’ve never dated anyone. Never been on a dating site. My experiences in the early stages of romance and relationships have always been intense, wild and unmistakable. I’ve seen something reposted a few times lately, an idea that people seem to be in awe of, that’s been the story of my life: “What’s crazy is that real lovers don’t even do talking stages. All it takes is one good date and suddenly y’all are together every day after that.” Yeah. This is how it’s always been for me. I EXPECT big love, big feeling, a whole-hearted, whole-vagina, whole-soul response to someone. Nothing less. Why would I waste my time on anything BUT that? In this episode:  Since I don’t “date” here’s what I do insteadThe morass of modern dating and my advice on how to navigate it Humans vs. superhumansJen Okazaki weighs in (iykyk) When you know you know People who marry for every other reason other than deep passion and what they look like 5, 10, 15 years down the road—I would know because I see them all the time Recognizing soul mates—or at least the people who hold vital learning for you here and now Shakespearean-Romantic-poet-epic-saga-love and nothing less Courage and boldness in love Death by a thousand cuts of cowardiceÂ
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Be a Man with a Plan
“Be ready at 8. I’ll pick you up. Wear a cocktail dress.”Is music to a woman’s ears. And her vagina.IT NEVER GETS OLD. Be a man with a plan. Take the lead. Initiate. Be bold. You can—and ought to—do this throughout your relationship. This applies to early stages all the way through 30 years of marriage. Be the man so that she doesn’t have to be. I’m speaking with Well-F**ked All Star Jim in today’s episode: Orgasm without ejaculation and sexual mastery earns your woman’s respectOne of the most fantastic examples of a man with a plan. Ever. Men and purpose. Why you need it and how it transforms your masculine self. Turning around a polarity dynamic and seizing the lead as the masculine Self-love is the biggest block you can clear to quantum leap your growthSexual Mastery for Men is open NOW for registration!In my 8-week online signature salon for men, you’ll learn: How to last longer in bedOrgasms without ejaculation How to use your sexual energy and relationship as a power source in your life How to achieve the deeper, vaginal orgasms for women. Organically grown cock lengthening and strengthening exercises How to lead and occupy your uber masculine and alpha self.And much more. This ultimate Supercock training. Everything you need to Dickmatize your woman and dominate in your life.Sign up now at kimanami.com/staminaÂ
Where the sexual and spiritual come together. Sex and relationship coach and vaginal weight lifter Kim Anami gives you the sex education and orgasms you never had. www.kimanami.com
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