The Dismissive Avoidant Patterns Around Sex That Change EVERYTHING
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Why do dismissive avoidant partners sometimes pull away after intimacy—or seem disconnected during it? If you've ever felt confused, hurt, or triggered in these moments, you're not alone. This episode is here to bring you clarity, compassion, and a path forward.
In this powerful and revealing conversation, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike delve into the hidden emotional patterns behind the dismissive avoidant attachment style and sex. Drawing from neuroscience, real client stories, and lived experience, they unpack how avoidant behaviors form—and what it takes to build meaningful intimacy, trust, and long-term desire.
You’ll learn:
✅ Why DAs often crave physical intimacy early on—only to pull away later
✅ The four pillars of connection and how sex fits into healthy relationships
✅ The difference between lust and love—and why both matter
✅ How neurochemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin shape bonding for men and women
✅ What to do if you've “had sex too early” and want to shift your dynamic
✅ How to build intimacy through intellectual and emotional connection
✅ The real reason many DAs avoid eye contact during sex
✅ How to communicate sexual needs without triggering shutdowns
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
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How to Stop Feeling Insecure in Romantic Relationships (Dismissive Avoidant Attachment)
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Dismissive avoidants are often seen as confident or aloof in relationships—but underneath that exterior, many silently struggle with deep feelings of insecurity. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or emotionally shut down in love, this episode is for you.
Join Thais Gibson as she unpacks the hidden insecurities of the dismissive avoidant attachment style and shares empowering tools to break free from shame, self-doubt, and emotional repression. Learn how to build self-acceptance, communicate your needs, and reconnect authentically—without losing your independence.
🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why dismissive avoidants often feel "not good at relationships"
How unmet expectations trigger shame and emotional withdrawal
The internal dialogue that fuels insecurity—and how to rewire it
The link between emotional modeling and relationship confidence
How to speak up about your needs (without feeling weak or clingy)
👩🏫 Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
🧰 Helpful Resources
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes
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📝 Read the PDS Blog
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7:55
All Insecure Attachment Styles: 8 Red Flags to Watch Out for When Dating
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Ever found yourself deep in a relationship, only to realize it was never aligned with what you truly needed? Dating with insecure attachment can make it easy to miss the warning signs—and even easier to justify them.
In this powerful episode, Thais Gibson walks you through 8 essential red flags to look for in the early stages of dating. Whether you're anxiously attached, fearful avoidant, or somewhere in between, these insights will help you break out of painful patterns and make empowered choices in love.
🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why “respect” is a foundational non-negotiable—and how to spot subtle disrespect early
The root reason couples build resentment (and how to avoid it)
How to tell the difference between privacy and secrecy
What lack of individuation looks like and why it threatens long-term compatibility
Why unhealed baggage from past relationships often leads to future pain
The psychological signs of controlling behavior that may be easy to overlook
👩🏫 Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
🧰 Helpful Resources
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes
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15:29
How to Deal with Unrequited Love (and What It Reveals About You)
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Do you find yourself longing for someone who doesn’t feel the same way—or even someone you’ve never spoken to? The pain of unrequited love can feel all-consuming, but it holds a powerful message from your subconscious.
In this heartfelt episode, Thais Gibson helps you decode the true meaning behind infatuation and emotional longing when it isn’t returned. You’ll discover how fantasy forms when core needs go unmet—and how to turn the energy of heartbreak into self-empowerment, healing, and integration.
🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why your brain turns to fantasy when your emotional needs aren’t met
The connection between unrequited love and unmet childhood needs
How to identify the repressed traits you’re projecting onto others
A simple framework to uncover and meet your own needs in the present
How to move from emotional longing to real-life connection and confidence
👩🏫 Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
🧰 Helpful Resources
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
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7:04
Top 5 Reasons to End a Relationship (Even If You Still Care)
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Are you struggling to decide whether to stay in or leave a relationship that feels emotionally draining? You’re not alone. Sometimes, love isn’t enough—and staying too long can mean abandoning yourself.
In this episode, Thais Gibson shares the top five reasons it may be time to walk away from a relationship—especially when growth, safety, or shared values are missing. Drawing from years of experience in private practice, she offers compassionate insights that help you get clear on when it’s time to stop hoping—and start healing.
🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
The #1 red flag that should never be ignored in a relationship
Why mutual effort—not attachment style—is the true key to lasting love
How empathy plays a critical role in relationship repair (and what happens when it’s missing)
The long-term cost of mismatched values—and how to spot it early
What non-negotiables really mean, and why compromising on them leads to resentment
👩🏫 Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
🧰 Helpful Resources
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
📲 Connect With Us on Social
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
#AttachmentHealing #EmotionalHealth #SecureAttachment #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupSupport #ThaisGibson #PDSPodcast #Boundaries #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalDevelopment
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