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In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric dive deep into the unspoken roles that families often fall into, especially when dealing with addiction. They explore how these roles—like the hero, caretaker, scapegoat, mascot, and lost child—can perpetuate dysfunction and hinder recovery.
By understanding and identifying these roles, you can begin to break free from the cycles that keep you stuck. Tune in to learn practical steps for recognizing these dynamics, fostering open communication, and setting boundaries that support your journey toward recovery and authentic living.
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Key Topics
Understanding common family roles in addiction
The impact of these roles on personal well-being
Historical context and development of family therapy
Practical steps for changing dysfunctional family dynamics
Importance of self-care and therapeutic support
Timestamp
[00:01:00] - Introduction to the episode and topic
[00:02:16] - Explanation of family roles and their impact
[00:05:23] - Historical background of family therapy and roles
[00:11:00] - Detailed discussion of each family role
[00:20:11] - Practical steps for identifying and changing roles
[00:23:00] - Importance of self-care and boundary setting
[00:24:03] - Information about additional resources and deep dives
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325: The Transformative Power of Forgiveness: Insights from Dr. Frederic Luskin and Lyndon Harris
Discover the profound insights of Dr. Frederic Luskin, renowned psychologist and director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, as he unpacks the powerful role forgiveness plays in our lives. Alongside him, former Episcopal priest, Lyndon Harris shares his compelling journey of healing after the 9/11 tragedy, illustrating the transformative power of forgiveness. Together, they share personal narratives and professional insights that highlight forgiveness as a vital skill for mental and emotional well-being.
Our conversation dives deep into the complex dynamics between forgiveness and survival. We explore how anger can initially serve as a source of empowerment but often becomes a restrictive force that holds us back. By recognizing forgiveness as a skill that can be taught and honed over time, supported by extensive research, we reveal how it can shift individuals from a victim mindset to a more empowered life story. This episode sheds light on how forgiveness, though not a moral directive, is an essential component of self-care that can be developed to improve our capacity for compassion and authentic living.
In this episode, you will hear:
Exploration of forgiveness as a vital skill for mental and emotional well-being
Discussion on the complex relationship between anger, empowerment, and forgiveness
Emphasis on forgiveness as a teachable skill, supported by academic research
The role of gratitude and self-forgiveness in the healing process
Practical tools and advice for overcoming resentment and embracing compassion
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The Art of Forgiveness- Frederic Luskin, Ph.D
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TAM+ EP 60: Rewiring Your Recovery: The Power of a Growth Mindset
Have you ever thought, "I've tried recovery before and failed—why try again?" or "This is just who I am"? These beliefs might be the biggest barrier to lasting recovery.
In this solo episode, licensed therapist Duane Osterlind shares how a growth mindset can transform your recovery journey. Drawing from Dr. Carol Dweck's research, Duane explains how viewing your abilities and capacity for recovery as things that can grow and change (rather than fixed traits) makes all the difference.
Recovery is rarely a straight path. For many, it's a series of hopeful starts followed by setbacks. Each relapse can make doubt grow louder: "Maybe I'm not strong enough," or "Maybe I'll always be this way." These thoughts aren't just discouraging—they actively harm recovery.
When we believe change isn’t possible, we avoid challenges, give up easily, and see effort as pointless. This mindset isn’t just psychological—it impacts physical health, increases stress, and perpetuates addiction.
But there is another way. A growth mindset recognizes that your brain is neuroplastic—able to form new pathways throughout life. The same neuroplasticity that allowed addiction to take hold can help you build healthier habits. Through this lens, relapse becomes valuable data, not failure, offering insights about triggers and strategies for meaningful change.
Duane shares practical steps to build this mindset, like becoming aware of your self-talk, reframing challenges, embracing "the power of yet," and celebrating effort over outcomes. Recovery becomes about resilience and growth, not perfection.
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Key Topics:
The difference between fixed mindset and growth mindset in recovery
How neuroplasticity makes lasting change possible in addiction
Viewing relapses as learning opportunities rather than failures
Practical techniques to develop a growth mindset in recovery
The importance of celebrating effort over perfect outcomes
How seeking feedback strengthens your recovery journey
Finding inspiration in others who have successfully changed
Episode Timestamps:
[00:00:54] Introduction to growth mindset in addiction recovery
[00:04:21] The research behind mindset theory and Dr. Carol Dweck's work
[00:07:00] Understanding brain neuroplasticity in addiction and recovery
[00:09:39] Actionable steps to develop a growth mindset in recovery
[00:12:31] The power of adding "yet" to negative self-statements
[00:14:05] The importance of seeking constructive feedback
[00:16:00] Closing thoughts: "Becoming is better than being"
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324: Breaking Free from High-Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole
High-functioning codependency takes center stage as we welcome licensed psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole to the Addicted Mind podcast. With a unique journey from a talent agent to a psychotherapist, Terri shares her personal experiences and insights from her book, "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency." We dive into the world of individuals who seem to manage life with ease yet secretly bear the weight of excessive responsibilities. Terri provides valuable strategies to help listeners recognize and break free from these patterns, offering a path towards healthier relationships and personal well-being.
The episode also shines a light on the connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency. Terri and I explore the challenges of managing the instinct to control others' emotions and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Personal anecdotes bring these discussions to life, including the struggle to support a loved one while respecting their autonomy. By acknowledging the discomfort of letting go, listeners can learn to empower others to be the heroes of their own stories, fostering genuine connection and intimacy.
In this episode, you will hear:
High-functioning codependency and its hidden struggles explored with Terri Cole
Transition from talent agent to psychotherapist; insights from Terri's book "Too Much"
Connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency
Strategies for setting boundaries and fostering healthier relationships
Embracing vulnerability and authenticity as part of recovery
Importance of self-discovery and courage to disappoint for personal growth
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Book: Too Much https://www.terricole.com/
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TAM+ EP 59: Rewire Your Brain: The Power of Personal Mantras for Recovery
Imagine this: You're in the middle of a stressful moment. Your heart races, shame creeps in, and that familiar voice in your head starts up again: "I'm a failure. I'll never change." What if you could stop this spiral with just a few powerful words?
In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric explore how creating a personal positive mantra can transform your recovery journey. These simple phrases aren't just feel-good statements—they're powerful tools backed by science that can literally rewire your brain.
Our hosts break down how negative automatic thoughts become hardwired through repetition, creating harmful cycles that feel impossible to escape. But there's hope! Using the concept of neuroplasticity—the brain's ability to form new connections—they explain how intentionally shifting these thoughts with personal mantras can change how you feel and respond to stress, shame, and cravings.
The episode offers a practical three-step process to create your own personal mantra: identify your automatic negative thoughts, challenge them with more realistic perspectives, and craft a simple, memorable mantra you can use in tough moments. Examples like "This feeling will pass" and "I am stronger than this moment" show how these short phrases can become powerful anchors when you need them most.
Duane and Eric emphasize that recovery isn't something we do alone—it's a journey we take together. They share how these mantras, when practiced regularly, become stronger with each use—like doing one rep at the gym.
Whether you're new to recovery or looking to strengthen your journey, this episode provides a simple yet powerful tool to help you navigate stress, regulate emotions, and stay grounded when you need it most.
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Key Topics
The science behind automatic negative thoughts and how they become hardwired in our brains
How neuroplasticity allows us to create new thought patterns through intentional practice
Three-step process to create your personal coping mantra
Why writing down negative thoughts is crucial to identifying them
The importance of personalizing mantras to make them more effective
How to practice and implement your mantra in daily life
Why community support enhances recovery alongside personal coping skills
Timestamp
[00:01:08] Introduction to personal coping mantras and their power in stressful moments
[00:03:54] The importance of community in recovery journeys
[00:05:00] Understanding how automatic negative thoughts shape our emotions and behaviors
[00:06:14] The science and history behind mantras in psychological practice
[00:09:00] Step 1: Identifying your automatic negative thoughts
[00:11:58] Step 2 & 3: Challenging negative thoughts and creating positive mantras
[00:16:09] Resources available for listeners to implement these practices
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