113: How Parts Work Transforms Polyamory: Transforming Jealousy, Fear, and Attachment Wounds
Send us a textIn this episode, Kiley explores how Parts Work, most commonly associated with Dr. Richard C. Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, can transform your experience of polyamory and consensual non-monogamy.You’ll learn how to identify your inner Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles, and how to lead from your calm, compassionate Self — even in the middle of jealousy, fear of abandonment, or metamour conflict.We’ll also connect these tools to Jessica Fern’s Polysecure, showing how parts work can help you earn secure attachment both within yourself and with your partners. Plus, Kiley shares her own journey of meeting protective and wounded parts with curiosity and compassion instead of reactivity.Referenced Resources & Books:No Bad Parts — Richard C. SchwartzInternal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition — Richard C. Schwartz & Martha SweezyPolysecure — Jessica FernSelf-Therapy — Jay EarleyFree IFS meditations — IFS-Institute.comJay Earley’s Parts Work Exercises — SelfTherapy.orgWhether you’re new to parts work or deep into your own IFS journey, this episode offers practical tools for emotional regulation, self-compassion, and building security in the beautiful complexity of polyamory.Support the show🎙️ The Pineapple Express PodcastSubscribe to my Substack for exclusive content: The Pineapple Express Substack. 💡 Events & Coaching Coaching sessions: Book time with me. 💜 Advocacy & Community Action Support equity and sexual freedom with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.OPEN's Free Peer Support Group 🛍️ Exclusive Deals Just for You Get The Non Monogamy Card Game and use my exclusive code PINEAPPLE10 for 10% Off https://www.thenonmonogamycardgame.com/products/the-game FirmTech Wearable Tech | Male Enhancement Rings | Shop now and get 15% off with code sexyswingerchick. SENSE Shop | Condoms & Lube | Explore the collection and save 15% with code sexyswingerchic. Sultry Vixen Dancewear | Exotic Outfits | Shop here and enjoy 15% off with code sexyswingerchic. 💬 Let’s keep the conversation going! Follow me for up...
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112: Anxious + Avoidant: Can This Relationship Ever Work? — with Jack from Polarity Unscripted
Send us a textIn this episode, Kiley sits down with Jack Bohannan from Polarity Unscripted to explore one of the most talked-about — and often misunderstood — relationship dynamics: the anxious–avoidant attachment pairing.Drawing from her own past relationship (where the answer to “can it work?” felt like a definite no), Kiley brings a candid, real-world perspective to the conversation, while Jack offers his deep expertise on polarity, emotional intimacy, and secure relating.Together, we break down:Why anxious and avoidant partners are so often drawn to each otherThe core fears each style brings into the relationshipWhat it actually takes to make this pairing work (and when to walk away)How to shift from triggering each other to co-regulating each otherPractical tools for healing your attachment style — whether you’re dating, nesting, or exploring non-monogamyThis episode blends attachment theory, , and Jack’s signature polarity framework to give you actionable steps you can use in your own relationships — no matter your style.📌 Find Jack Online:Website: https://jackbohannan.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/polarityunscriptedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PolarityUnscriptedIf you’ve ever wondered whether anxious and avoidant partners can build something lasting — or if you’ve lived the highs and lows of this dance yourself — this is the episode you don’t want to miss.Get The Non Monogamy Card Game and use my exclusive code PINEAPPLE10 for 10% Off https://www.thenonmonogamycardgame.com/products/the-gameSupport the show🎙️ The Pineapple Express PodcastSubscribe to my Substack for exclusive content: The Pineapple Express Substack. 💡 Events & Coaching Coaching sessions: Book time with me. 💜 Advocacy & Community Action Support equity and sexual freedom with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.OPEN's Free Peer Support Group 🛍️ Exclusive Deals Just for You Get The Non Monogamy Card Game and use my exclusive code PINEAPPLE10 for 10% Off https://www.thenonmonogamycardgame.com/products/the-game FirmTech Wearable Tech | Male Enhancement Rings | Shop now and get 15% off with code sexyswingerchick. SENSE Shop | Condoms & Lube | Explore the collection and save 15% with code sexyswingerchic. Sultry Vixen Dancewear | Exotic Outfits | Shop here and enjoy 15% off with code sexyswingerchic. 💬 Let’s keep the conversation going! Follow me for up...
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111:The Damage Of Decolonizing Love & The Polyamory Community,Race, and the Swinger's Lifestyle— with Tiffany @RealPolyLife
Send us a textThe Damage of Decolonizing Love & Black Polyamory: Tiffany @RealPolyLife on Race, Community & Swinging Join us for a powerful conversation with Tiffany (@RealPolyLife)https://www.instagram.com/realpolylife?igsh=MTRhYWg4Yngwd3h5Zg==a Black polyamorous educator and influencer, as she unpacks the complex intersections of race, and intimate relationship structures within the polyamory and swinger communities. We dive into how the not so well-meaning efforts of 'decolonizing love' can inadvertently cause harm, especially for Black women navigating ethical non-monogamy.In this episode, you'll hear about:The tensions between polyamory, race dynamics, and swinger culture in communities of color.Stories and insights from Black women in poly to broaden understanding and visibility.Tiffany’s work in centering Black voices in polyamorous narratives via her platform RealPolyLife.Resources such as:Black & Poly, a culturally rich poly blog/community designed to foster connection and honest discussion in Black-centered polyamorous spaces YouTubeTherapy for Black Girls Session 182, featuring Ruby B. Johnson—a polyamorous Black queer therapist—who addresses stigma, communication, and tools for ethical non-monogamy Therapy for Black Girls.Psychology of Black Womanhood entry “Black Women & Polyamory”, spotlighting Dr. Jenn M. Jackson’s research on the experiences and challenges of Black women in poly relationships Psych of Black WomanOnline communities like Black & Poly™ and BlackSupport the show🎙️ The Pineapple Express PodcastSubscribe to my Substack for exclusive content: The Pineapple Express Substack. 💡 Events & Coaching Coaching sessions: Book time with me. 💜 Advocacy & Community Action Support equity and sexual freedom with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.OPEN's Free Peer Support Group 🛍️ Exclusive Deals Just for You Get The Non Monogamy Card Game and use my exclusive code PINEAPPLE10 for 10% Off https://www.thenonmonogamycardgame.com/products/the-game FirmTech Wearable Tech | Male Enhancement Rings | Shop now and get 15% off with code sexyswingerchick. SENSE Shop | Condoms & Lube | Explore the collection and save 15% with code sexyswingerchic. Sultry Vixen Dancewear | Exotic Outfits | Shop here and enjoy 15% off with code sexyswingerchic. 💬 Let’s keep the conversation going! Follow me for up...
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110: 'Tolyamory' and The Dangers Of Practicing Non Monogamy To Keep Your Partner
Send us a textLet’s talk about the thing no one wants to admit: sometimes we say yes to non-monogamy not because we want to—but because we’re afraid to lose someone we love. In this episode, we dive deep into the term “tolyamory” (coined by Dan Savage), the danger of choosing open relationships out of fear instead of desire, and how to tell if you’re actually aligned with non-monogamy… or just tolerating it.We’ll unpack:The red flags of “tolyamory”Why consent isn’t just a checkbox—it’s a felt senseHow to check in with your nervous system before saying yesWhat to do if your partner wants non-monogamy and you don’tHow to reclaim your voice, your boundaries, and your truth—even when it’s hardWhether you’re the one asking or being asked to open up, this episode is for you. Let’s stop calling it love when it’s really fear. 💔➡️💖DAY OF VISIBILITY EVENTS https://www.eventbrite.com/e/3rd-annual-day-of-visibility-for-non-monogamy-picnic-in-the-park-tickets-1398059807519https://www.weekofvisibility.com/Support the show🎙️ The Pineapple Express PodcastSubscribe to my Substack for exclusive content: The Pineapple Express Substack. 💡 Events & Coaching Coaching sessions: Book time with me. 💜 Advocacy & Community Action Support equity and sexual freedom with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.OPEN's Free Peer Support Group 🛍️ Exclusive Deals Just for You Get The Non Monogamy Card Game and use my exclusive code PINEAPPLE10 for 10% Off https://www.thenonmonogamycardgame.com/products/the-game FirmTech Wearable Tech | Male Enhancement Rings | Shop now and get 15% off with code sexyswingerchick. SENSE Shop | Condoms & Lube | Explore the collection and save 15% with code sexyswingerchic. Sultry Vixen Dancewear | Exotic Outfits | Shop here and enjoy 15% off with code sexyswingerchic. 💬 Let’s keep the conversation going! Follow me for up...
About The Pineapple Express: A Millennial’s Guide to Love, Sex Positivity, Non-Monogamy, Polyamory & Swinging
The Pineapple Express Once a swinger podcast… now a real-time journey through modern love.Hosted by Kiley — queer, non-monogamous, neurodivergent, ex-sex worker turned sex and relationship coach — The Pineapple Express explores the messy, magical, ever-evolving world of love, sex, intimacy, and emotional growth.This podcast is for anyone navigating:Non-monogamy, polyamory, or swingingMonogamy after openness (or vice versa)Relationship transitions, breakups, and rediscovering self-worthADHD, neurodivergence, and nervous system repair in loveSexual empowerment and authentic connectionEach episode blends real-time storytelling, expert interviews, and unfiltered reflections on:Ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and swingingEmotional intelligence and intimacy and of course SEX Boundaries, communication, and healing attachment woundsQueerness, identity exploration, and sex-positivityNeurodivergent love, pleasure, and partnershipYou’ll laugh, cry, and maybe even journal after. Kiley’s here to stir the cauldron — and remind you that pleasure, connection, and love are allowed to evolve.This isn’t your average relationship podcast. It’s personal. It’s sacred. It’s a little unhinged. And it’s exactly what you’ve been craving.Why Listen?Because you're not looking for perfect love — you’re looking for real love. Because you’re healing, growing, and rewriting the rules — and want company along the way.Subscribe now and ride The Pineapple Express, where we talk about sex, love, and everything in between — with zero judgment, just curiosity, courage, and connection.
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