110: 'Tolyamory' and The Dangers Of Practicing Non Monogamy To Keep Your Partner
Send us a textLet’s talk about the thing no one wants to admit: sometimes we say yes to non-monogamy not because we want to—but because we’re afraid to lose someone we love. In this episode, we dive deep into the term “tolyamory” (coined by Dan Savage), the danger of choosing open relationships out of fear instead of desire, and how to tell if you’re actually aligned with non-monogamy… or just tolerating it.We’ll unpack:The red flags of “tolyamory”Why consent isn’t just a checkbox—it’s a felt senseHow to check in with your nervous system before saying yesWhat to do if your partner wants non-monogamy and you don’tHow to reclaim your voice, your boundaries, and your truth—even when it’s hardWhether you’re the one asking or being asked to open up, this episode is for you. Let’s stop calling it love when it’s really fear. 💔➡️💖DAY OF VISIBILITY EVENTS https://www.eventbrite.com/e/3rd-annual-day-of-visibility-for-non-monogamy-picnic-in-the-park-tickets-1398059807519https://www.weekofvisibility.com/Support the show🎙️ The Pineapple Express PodcastSubscribe to my Substack for exclusive content: The Pineapple Express Substack. 💡 Events & Coaching Coaching sessions: Book time with me. 💜 Advocacy & Community Action Support equity and sexual freedom with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.OPEN's Free Peer Support Group 🛍️ Exclusive Deals Just for You Get The Non Monogamy Card Game and use my exclusive code PINEAPPLE10 for 10% Off https://www.thenonmonogamycardgame.com/products/the-game FirmTech Wearable Tech | Male Enhancement Rings | Shop now and get 15% off with code sexyswingerchick. SENSE Shop | Condoms & Lube | Explore the collection and save 15% with code sexyswingerchic. Sultry Vixen Dancewear | Exotic Outfits | Shop here and enjoy 15% off with code sexyswingerchic. 💬 Let’s keep the conversation going! Follow me for up...
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The Pineapple Express Once a swinger podcast… now a real-time journey through modern love.Hosted by Kiley — queer, non-monogamous, neurodivergent, ex-sex worker turned sex and relationship coach — The Pineapple Express explores the messy, magical, ever-evolving world of love, sex, intimacy, and emotional growth.This podcast is for anyone navigating:Non-monogamy, polyamory, or swingingMonogamy after openness (or vice versa)Relationship transitions, breakups, and rediscovering self-worthADHD, neurodivergence, and nervous system repair in loveSexual empowerment and authentic connectionEach episode blends real-time storytelling, expert interviews, and unfiltered reflections on:Ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and swingingEmotional intelligence and intimacy and of course SEX Boundaries, communication, and healing attachment woundsQueerness, identity exploration, and sex-positivityNeurodivergent love, pleasure, and partnershipYou’ll laugh, cry, and maybe even journal after. Kiley’s here to stir the cauldron — and remind you that pleasure, connection, and love are allowed to evolve.This isn’t your average relationship podcast. It’s personal. It’s sacred. It’s a little unhinged. And it’s exactly what you’ve been craving.Why Listen?Because you're not looking for perfect love — you’re looking for real love. Because you’re healing, growing, and rewriting the rules — and want company along the way.Subscribe now and ride The Pineapple Express, where we talk about sex, love, and everything in between — with zero judgment, just curiosity, courage, and connection.
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