EPISODE 43: "DEBUNKING THE NY TIMES ARTICLE ON ADHD”
In this episode: Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled “Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?” Jen let’s the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day free trial at any level, and when you join, take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADDitude Magazine: Setting The Record Straight Dr. Russell Barkley On YouTube
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PATREON ONLY EPISODE 42 "LIMERENCE" TEASER
This week’s episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode. In this episode: Ever heard of limerence? It’s not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I’m taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov’s original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. Tom Living With Limerence Blog Dr. Tom Purposeful Living Psychology Today Who Is Vulnerable To Limerence Healthline ADHD Limerence Dr. Dorothy Tennov “Love and Limerence” Book
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EPISODE 41 "PEOPLE PLEASING"
In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I’ll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why ADHD Makes You Feel So Much How Can I Stop People Pleasing At Work? Are You A People Pleaser? ADHD & People Pleasing: What’s The Correalation? Set Boundaries Find Peace
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EPISODE 40 “SETTING BOUNDARIES”
In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: 🎉 Right now I’ve got a special discount if you join the “You Are A Lot” podcast Patreon annually - you get 25% off any tier! Get a year for $24-$79 only depending on your tier. CLICK HERE and use code: 29A43 (Bonus episodes, transcripts, live online events, private chat community and more!) And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter Jen’s Unique Link For 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals Jen’s Unique Link for 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks Jen’s Unique Link for 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Jen’s Unique LInk for 20% off Books at Bookshop Dot Org Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Poor Boundaries and ADHD - Sachs Center How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Have ADHD Focused Mind: Boundaries and ADHD Focused Mind: Learning To Say No With Adult ADHD Why Is It So Difficult To Set Boundaries? Set Boundaries Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab
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BONUS EPISODE - JEN CHAT: “ASPERGER, A NAZI?”
In this Jen Chat I talk about the origin of the term "Asperger's Syndrome" and why it's no longer used. The short answer: Nazis. I'm reading a book about Hans Asperger, the Austrian pediatrician who worked with the Nazis but claimed not to be one of them. To this day the idea of how "functioning" an autistic person is seems to be deeply and darkly rooted in only what their value to the workforce is - and not their value as a human being. Get 20% off of the book “Asperger’s Children: The Origins Of Autism In Nazi Vienna” using my unique link to Bookshop dot org - a great website that buys from indie booksellers and helps them stay in business. SHOW NOTES: Use my unique link for 20% off books at Bookshop dot org. A great resource if you don’t have an indie bookstore near you - and want your books mailed to you fast. Check out my lists of recommended mental health reading: Jen’s Recommended ADHD Friendly Mental Health Books Jen’s Recommended books/memoirs about ADHD Jen’s Recommended books/memoirs about Audhd/Autism Jen’s Recommended therapy books about love/relationship issues
This is the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast) and I’m your host, Jen Kirkman.
Has anyone ever said to you, "Um, you're kind of a lot?" If they have this podcast is your new favorite show. Welcome to You Are a Lot in ADHD, AuDHD podcast. I'm your host Jen Kirkman. On this show, I talk about my personal experience of my later in-life diagnosis as an AuDHD human. That is ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder. I discuss the latest research and I aim to create an affirming lesson from neurodivergent people, helping us all to feel less confused, more connected, and as a result, fully validated.
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