Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

• Individuation, Adolescence and Attachment - Ep 697

  In this episode, Dr. Reedy explains how our attachment must evolve along with our child’s development. He explains that the first tasks in attachment are belonging, safety, and stability. But once a child enters adolescence, the stage of life where one must develop their own identity and sense of self, the parents’ attachment task is more about letting go and separation. He explains that parents must change many of their fundamental ideals and assumptions about parenting for the child to grow in the ways that they need to grow. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• Random Thoughts with Dr. Brad Reedy - Ep 696

  In this episode, Dr. Reedy shares his thoughts on self-care versus self-improvement, the trap of self-righteousness, and how our self-awareness is only as good as our self-compassion. He explains why humans seek to please other humans and what is meant by a “transformation of consciousness.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• From Scapegoat to Hero - Ep 695

  In this episode, Dr. Reedy talks about the roles we take on in families. He explains how the s scapegoat or identified patient serve to take on the shame and undone work of the family. Often their symptoms are messengers of the work previous generations have avoided up to this point. They often bring the entire family into therapy and are regarded as sort of a “hero.” This is because once the family system enters therapy, then the real issues, or the root of the issues, can be addressed. Ultimately, the responsibility for each person is to take back their own shadow, their own projections, and assume responsibility for the happiness and serenity of their own life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• Consequences & Boundaries - Ep 694

  Dr. Reedy explains how boundaries are synonymous with self-care. He explains that boundaries set from a codependent context are meant to change others while boundaries set from a secure sense of self are set to take care of one’s self. He explains how consequences, under the umbrella of boundaries, are an attempt to change behaviors in others. And finally, if we set boundaries to change others we are implicitly suggesting that serenity is found outside of us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• Home for the Holidays? - Ep 693

  Dr. Reedy discusses whether going home for the holidays is the best thing for us. He discusses the guilt, shame and obligation that’s “baked-in” to us when it comes to visiting family or maintaining relationships we have outgrown. He doesn’t offer advice but rather takes the audience through the questions and the thinking that goes into our relationships. He explains that a task in attachment is to let go of others when they need to be somewhere else and how many people feel compelled to spend time with family and others because of unconscious obligations. The nature of the parent-child dynamic is discussed and how it can be turned upside-down when children feel the need to take care of parents’ emotional well-being and egos. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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