Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy announces the release of his newest book. Co-authored with Michael and Jeff McLean. It is the story of a gay son and his high profile Mormon father and how they found each other. Dr. Reedy provides commentary on the work that each did to re-connect and celebrate each other. Jeff tells the story of his childhood, raised in a small town in Utah. He chronicles the shame and pain of growing up in a conservative, high cost religion and how all this lead to addiction. Michael tells his story, confessing the mistakes and missteps along the way. It is a compelling story and offer the unique vantage point of a therapist observing the growth that each person experienced. Reedy uses the hero's journey as a way of understanding the tasks that we all must answer if we are to connect and hold each other with compassion and non-judgment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses how our contexts predispose us for certain dynamics in relationships. He explains how inner-work will shape and change our outside world. And he explains the power that old contexts have on our psychology and how regression originates. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about the definition of addiction. A chronic pattern to avoid being present in your own life. He talks about the many faces of addiction, beyond alcohol and other substances. He explains how codependency is an addiction to controlling people, places, and things outside of oneself in order to manage internal states of anxiety, fear and insecurity. He explains that addiction is a spiritual bypass. It is a vertical thirst for a connection to the transcendent, the divine, or God. But without the development of the self, this thirst can lead to a life of imbalance and excess. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship between boundaries and our capacity to love. He explains that we must grapple with fear, shame, and anxiety to honor and attend to our needs so that we can make ourselves more available to love and connection with others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses how therapy first starts with the base: the nervous system we "inherited" from our parents. He explains that until the base (think of soil) is established, skills, tools and insights will be fleeting. He also explains that the biggest barrier for many people is how slow therapy proceeds. It takes a long time with repeated exposure to an adequate therapist to build a stable foundation where new thoughts, new ideas, and new behaviors (think seeds) can more easily become embodied (think fruit of the new growth). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.