The Anxious Achiever

Why do so many capable, high-performing people end up exhausted, and emotionally drained even when they’re doing everything “right”? In this episode, I sit with psychologist Dr. Thomas Greenspon to talk about perfectionism, shame, and self-worth. Thomas breaks down why perfectionism isn’t actually about excellence, then entrepreneur Eleanor Beaton shares how perfectionism shaped her leadership, ambition, and identity and what changed when she stopped chasing perfection and started embracing wholeness instead. Get ready to rethink the way you work, care for others, and define success.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 What is perfectionism?

08:30 What’s the difference between perfectionism and the pursuit of excellence?

10:00 How perfectionism becomes a coping mechanism for anxiety.

14:30 What’s the connection between perfectionism, depression, and hopelessness?

17:00 How childhood experiences shape perfectionism.

20:45 Why humans are wired for connection and belonging.

22:45 How modern culture rewards perfectionism and overachievement.

23:30 What can parents do to help perfectionistic kids?

25:45 The 4 things that help people overcome perfectionism.

32:45 Why perfectionism disconnects you from our wholeness.

35:30 How perfectionism delays growth and keeps people stuck.

41:00 Why entrepreneurship becomes personal development work.

44:00 How perfectionism shows up as avoidance and overwork.

46:30 What are the signs that perfectionism is running your life?

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What if the problem isn’t your brain, but the systems you’ve spent your life trying to fit into? In this episode, I sit down with David Flink, founder of the Neurodiversity Alliance. We talk about what it means to navigate work, leadership, and identity as a neurodivergent person. David shares how he learned to stop forcing himself into systems that didn’t fit, how metacognition changed his life, and why today’s younger workers are approaching neurodivergence differently. Get ready to build your life around your strengths instead of constantly trying to fix your weaknesses. 

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 How do you define leadership?

04:00 What became easier for you as you got older as a neurodivergent leader?

08:00 The strengths David has come to love about his dyslexic ADHD brain.

11:15 Why neurodivergent adults spend years unlearning shame.

17:15 Why kids need to become detectives of their own learning styles.

19:00 What metacognition means and why it matters so much.

24:00 Don't let your current environment define your potential.

27:45 Why neurodivergent people often develop extraordinary resilience.

31:15 Can workplaces change for neurodivergent employees?

37:15 How remote work transformed David’s company culture.

41:30 Why Gen Z approaches disability and neurodivergence differently.

45:15 How focusing on deficits causes companies to miss great talent.

47:30 What happens to neurodivergence in midlife.

51:45 What is inter-able relationship?

54:15 Why the best teams are built around complementary strengths.

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Why does AI feel so personal to so many professionals right now? In this episode, I talk with Nilay Patel, editor-in-chief of The Verge, about the emotional side of artificial intelligence and why so much of the fear around AI may actually be about work itself. We dive into how layoffs, shrinking trust in employers, “good enough” automation, and constant technological change are reshaping the way ambitious people think about stability, creativity, and their future careers. Nilay shares why humans naturally form emotional relationships with technology, why AI companions and chatbots can feel strangely comforting, and why today’s AI hype may be running ahead of reality. Tune in to learn how AI is reshaping work, identity, and ambition.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 Why AI feels emotionally threatening at work right now.

03:15 Why humans form emotional relationships with technology.

05:15 How social media is engineered to shape emotions and behavior.

10:00 Why the media frames AI as an existential threat.

12:15 What are the jobs already being affected by generative AI?

16:30 Can AI become a better therapist, mentor, or manager than humans?

21:30 Why constructive criticism and “teeth” matter in management.

24:00 The fear that AI will devalue expertise and creativity.

27:45 Why large language models can’t actually create original ideas.

30:13 How to think about expertise and career growth in the age of AI.

32:30 Why democratizing creative tools changes entire industries.

37:30 What happens when the middle of the labor market disappears?

40:30 Is AI actually as transformative as people claim?

43:45 Why tech companies are failing to help workers emotionally adapt.

45:30 Nilay’s advice for CEOs and billionaires building AI products.

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What happens when a leader realizes the traits they spent years hiding are actually their greatest strengths? In this episode, I talk with Amy Streater Wilson, Chief Marketing Officer, who was diagnosed later in life with ADHD and autism. Amy shares the shame and confusion that can come with a late diagnosis, from struggling with “boring” tasks to feeling overwhelmed by sensory input and social dynamics at work. We also dive into negotiation and selling through a neurodivergent lens, why many neurodivergent people struggle with traditional power dynamics, and how understanding neurodivergence can transform the way you lead, negotiate, communicate, and work with others. 

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 The shame many neurodivergent adults carry before diagnosis.

05:30 What is neurodivergence?

07:45 What does leadership mean to you?

10:45 Why neurodivergent people often struggle with dishonesty and mixed signals.

13:30 What’s the difference between internal anxiety and external performance?

19:45 How reading body language can be a negotiation superpower.

25:15 The pressure neurodivergent women feel to make everyone comfortable.

31:30 How BATNA reduces anxiety in difficult negotiations.

35:45 How to sell without pretending to be someone else.

39:30 How to spot manipulation and dishonesty quickly.

45:15 The downside of being “too direct” at work.

48:30 Why autonomy and agency matter to neurodivergent people.

55:00 What’s your advice for neurodivergent people trying to advocate for themselves?

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What happens when stress, uncertainty, and lack of control start to take over your brain? In this episode, I sit down with renowned behavioral economist Dan Ariely to talk about resilience, learned helplessness, anxiety, and why so many people feel overwhelmed right now. Dan shares how surviving severe burns, years in the hospital, and later facing conspiracy theories and death threats shaped his understanding of stress, resilience, and human behavior. We also dive into why uncertainty at work feels so psychologically destabilizing, how scarcity and anxiety reduce our mental capacity, why humans look for villains during stressful times, and what actually helps us build resilience. Tune in to learn ways to regain agency when life feels chaotic.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 Why starting something new can help you feel unstuck.

03:45 The mental health benefits of walking with friends.

08:35 Why invisible mental health struggles feel more isolating.

11:00 What workplaces still misunderstand about neurodiversity.

16:15 How physical limitations forced Dan to think more creatively.

19:15 Why uncertainty and unpredictability increase anxiety at work.

22:30 Why does modern life making you less resilient?

24:15 How layoffs and workplace uncertainty create learned helplessness.

29:15 The strategy performers use to stay engaged and motivated.

33:30 Why anxiety consumes your brain’s “CPU.”

36:45 Why humans look for villains during stressful times.

38:15 How negative narratives reshape the way you see people.

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Get a copy of my book - The Anxious Achiever

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