The Purpose Show

In this episode, I'm breaking down how to stop letting other people's opinions control you, and why being rattled by feedback isn't a confidence issue, it's a nervous system and identity issue.
When you don't know who you are or trust yourself deeply, disapproval feels like danger. One comment can send you into anxiety, overthinking, spiraling, or self-doubt. Not because something is wrong with you, but because your sense of safety and self-worth is coming from outside of you.
We're talking about:
Why criticism and feedback can dysregulate your nervous system
How outsourcing your identity creates anxiety and emotional instability
The difference between useful feedback vs personal projection
Why "being unbothered" isn't numbness — it's self-trust
How to become grounded, self-anchored, and emotionally regulated
The neuroscience behind writing things out and thinking clearly
Practical steps to build self-trust, self-respect, and inner stability
This episode is for you if:
You feel anxious about being judged or perceived
One opinion can ruin your mood or confidence
You over-explain, over-share, or change yourself to be liked
You want to feel calm, grounded, and solid in who you are
You're ready to stop seeking approval and start trusting yourself
This isn't about becoming perfect or immune to feedback. It's about knowing yourself so deeply that other people's opinions stop running your nervous system.
My links here:https://alliecasazza.com/tpslinks
 Becoming Her Blueprint

In this episode, we're breaking down how to stop needing approval, and why approval-seeking isn't a personality flaw or a confidence issue. It's an identity and nervous system issue.
You can make thoughtful choices, act with integrity, and still be misunderstood. That's not failure. That's part of being human and being perceived. The problem starts when your sense of safety, worth, or direction depends on how other people respond to you.
When that happens, disapproval can feel overwhelming. One comment, one reaction, or one opinion can trigger anxiety, self-doubt, or a spiral of overthinking. Not because something is wrong with you, but because your nervous system has learned to look outside of you for safety and validation.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why needing approval creates anxiety and emotional instability
How the nervous system interprets disapproval as danger
The difference between helpful feedback, personal preference, and projection
Why treating all feedback as truth keeps you stuck
How to stop outsourcing your identity to other people
The neuroscience behind writing things out for clarity and regulation
Practical steps to build self-trust and emotional stability
How to tolerate being misunderstood without abandoning yourself
Why boundaries are not cold or inauthentic… they are self-respect
We also unpack approval-seeking patterns, people-pleasing, and the habit of adjusting yourself to feel safe. And I share the real-time process I'm using to become more grounded, regulated, and anchored in who I am (without numbing out or pretending not to care).
This episode is for you if:
You struggle with people-pleasing or fear of judgment
Criticism or disapproval easily rattles you
You over-explain, over-share, or second-guess yourself
You want to feel calmer, steadier, and more self-assured
You're ready to stop needing approval and start trusting yourself
This isn't about becoming immune to other people's opinions. It's about belonging to yourself so your nervous system no longer depends on external validation.
New mantra from this episode:
Preference is not truth.
My links here:https://alliecasazza.com/tpslinks
Becoming Her Blueprint

In this episode of The Purpose Show, I'm speaking to the woman who's always been the capable one—the steady one everyone relies on. We're talking about the quiet cost of being responsible for everything, and how competence can slowly turn into disconnection from yourself.
I unpack why being good at handling things doesn't mean you have endless capacity, how functioning gets mistaken for alignment, and why so many women feel present for everyone else but absent from their own lives. I also share gentle, practical ways to begin reconnecting with yourself without blowing up your life or losing the parts of you that are strong.
If life technically works but you don't feel like you anymore, this episode will help you understand why—and offer a softer way forward.
My links here:https://alliecasazza.com/tpslinks
 https://alliecasazza.com/collective

If you feel like you know what you want to do but keep waiting to feel ready, this episode will change how you see that pattern entirely. Waiting to feel ready is not a motivation problem, a confidence issue, or a discipline failure.
 It's a nervous system safety response. In this episode, we break down why readiness is not something you think your way into and why your body is waiting for proof of safety before it allows movement.You'll learn what "waiting to feel ready" is actually doing to your nervous system, why so many women get stuck in hesitation even when they're clear on what they want, and how readiness is built after action, not before it.
We'll talk about why forcing yourself to "just do it" often backfires, how pressure reinforces freezing, and what kind of small, neutral, survivable actions actually create self trust, momentum, and clarity.This episode is especially for women who feel stuck, overthink their next move, struggle with self trust, or feel like they're constantly waiting for confidence, certainty, or calm before taking action. You'll walk away with a grounded reframe and a practical way to move forward without overwhelming your nervous system or forcing yourself into fake confidence.
If this conversation resonates, check out my free class Becoming Her Blueprint, linked in the show notes, where I walk you through how identity shifts, nervous system regulation, and behavior change actually work together.
And if you want ongoing support practicing this work gently and consistently, Becoming Her Collective is where we do it in real time.You don't need to feel ready. You need to move in ways your nervous system can handle.
My links here:https://alliecasazza.com/tpslinks
https://alliecasazza.com/collective
Declutter Like A Mother! Here!

Have you ever finally had time to yourself only to feel unmotivated, resistant, or completely blank?
In this episode of The Purpose Show, Allie Casazza explains why not wanting to do anything when you finally have time is not laziness, burnout, or a character flaw. It's often a nervous system transition state after long periods of pressure, responsibility, and constant output.
You'll learn what's actually happening in your body and brain during these moments and why forcing productivity or motivation usually backfires.
In this episode, we cover:
Why rest doesn't always feel restful at first

What happens when your nervous system shifts out of long-term "go mode"

Why motivation disappears when pressure lifts

What to do instead of forcing productivity

How your environment and visual input affect energy and desire

Why decluttering and reducing input restores capacity faster than trying harder

This episode offers practical, gentle actions you can take in the moment to help your nervous system settle so energy and desire can return naturally.
If you've ever thought, "I finally have time… why can't I use it?", this episode will help you understand what's really going on and how to move forward without pressure or self-blame.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Declutter Like a Mother (DLAM)

Becoming Her Blueprint

https://alliecasazza.com/collective