Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, we take a trip down memory lane as Cam shares a presentation he gave at Camp Lovehoney back in 2020. He explains how toys and lube can support sexual health and pleasure, including using masturbators to help premature ejaculation and erectile difficulties by retraining stroke patterns and reducing friction, and using edging to prolong arousal. Cam highlights prostate play as a pathway to non-ejaculatory prostate orgasms, multi-orgasmic potential, and greater empathy as a penetrative partner, citing survey findings that partners of men who’ve explored anal penetration report higher satisfaction. He shares Lovehoney study stats on toy use and reviews products including a thrusting masturbator with dirty-talk audio, a vibrating couples ring, and a remote-controlled prostate massager, plus previews upcoming BlowMotion masturbators and answers audience questions.

Key points:
06:56 Toys For Performance And Control
11:10 Edging And Prostate Orgasms
19:18 Thrusting Masturbator Demo
24:54 Couples Vibrating Ring
28:27 Remote Prostate Massager Review
30:16 New BlowMotion Teaser
32:55 Lube And Toy Care Basics
33:32 Audience Q&A

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam discusses how medicine, culture, and commerce intersect in social-media health narratives with Emma Grundtvig Gram, PhD. They unpack Emma's research focusing on “low T” content on TikTok and Instagram. She explains her content-analysis study examining how influencers promote testosterone testing and treatment through narratives rather than evidence, often linking testosterone to confidence, dominance, success, muscles, sexual performance, leadership, and happiness while framing ordinary experiences (fatigue, stress, weight gain, stalled gym progress, sexual fluctuations) as signs of deficiency. The conversation covers regressive gender ideas, disparagement of femininity, manosphere links, optimisation/T-maxing pressures, appeals to fear of aging and masculinity loss, and concerns about young men as long-term consumers.
Key Points:03:07 Why Study "Low T"08:05 Disease Mongering Explained16:36 Sexuality Framed As Deficiency27:46 The Optimisation Trap37:30 Homosocial And Homoerotic Ads41:18 Parasocial Trust And Algorithms44:33 Healthier Testosterone Talk

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Stephanie Ganowski. They discuss how porn and online masculinity messaging create unrealistic expectations, and explain the mechanism of performance anxiety as a fight-or-flight nervous system response that disrupts arousal and erections and can speed ejaculation. Stephanie emphasizes pairing physical techniques (breathing, pelvic floor work) with mindset changes, including answering “what if” thoughts in advance to reduce uncertainty and build trust. Both advocate reframing sex from penis-centered performance to pleasure, presence, and connection, encouraging non-linear intimacy and better communication with partners, including using third-party prompts like podcasts. Stephanie shares her iOS app Ronin, a guided masturbation/meditation tool to build confidence, reduce porn reliance, and train arousal skills.
Key Points:07:01 Nervous System Breakdown13:15 Redefining Great Sex24:22 PE vs ED Practices29:25 Couples Talk About Sex34:31 Handling Hard Feedback41:39 Toys Lube And Solo Practice

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Jordan Walker, an RSE specialist working with teens (including neurodivergent and trauma-affected youth) in Western Australia. They discuss boys seeking connection online via manosphere content, the loss of third spaces and community sport, the role of parents and upskilled coaches, and the need for facilitated, mixed-gender discussions to build conflict-resolution skills.

Key points:
06:09 Consent Teaching Pitfalls
18:59 What Boys Need Now
20:38 Manosphere And Porn Influence
27:29 Parents and Schools Role
35:19 Connection Seeking and AI Companions
39:11 Teaching Consent Online
45:18 When We Avoid Hard Talks

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Seán Forde Kelly, coach and founder of the sexual wellness nonprofit Come What May. They discuss how shame blocks sexual openness, and how it dissipates when stories are shared safely through emotional release and validation. They also explore accountability for harmful male behaviour, the role of “healthy shame,” the idea of a “predator” or primal impulse in men, and improving consent education through embodied practices.
Key points:01:04 What Sexual Wellness Means09:19 Shame vs Guilt Explained19:41 Accountability for Abuse30:02 Embodied Consent Practices34:13 Coercion and Power Dynamics39:34 Teaching Consent to Youth