Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam shares a selection of clips from his social media where he has debunked alpha male talking points. This is a collection of shorter videos.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Freya, a sex coach and educator and host of The Labia Lounge. They discuss her “Find Freya a Fella” hybrid PR/social experiment aimed at finding a partner while documenting modern dating frustrations like app fatigue, micro-rejections, loneliness, and Australia’s “nonchalance” about showing interest. Boycotting apps, she attends Melbourne singles events and practices meeting people “in the wild” by initiating conversations, being more approachable, and building community to counter scarcity mindset. They explore ethical “practice” in approaching strangers, attunement to cues, reducing pressure by reframing dates, and her idea for a “Mates and Dates” mixer. Freya shares mixed results—some dates but no long-term match—plus stigma women face for openly wanting commitment, and where to follow the campaign online.

Key points:
07:08 Why Dating Feels Broken
11:43 Meeting People Offline
15:39 Mindset And Scarcity
18:09 Approaching With Respect
26:43 Results And Stigma
31:21 What Makes A Good Date
38:18 Effort, Nonchalance, and Clarity
51:23 Where To Follow Along

Is OnlyFans Social Media? Intimacy, Ethics, and

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam interviews Monash University research fellow Emily van der Nagel about her research and book on OnlyFans, focusing on media literacy, platform design, and adult content creation. They discuss the centrality of direct messages for intimacy, monetisation, risks of deception, and parasocial harm. They address creator agency, boundary-setting, audience pressure, demographic uncertainty due to platform secrecy, and how AI may reshape authenticity expectations, disclosure, and trust.

Key points:
01:33 Is OnlyFans Social Media?
04:58 Creator Versus Subscriber
06:24 DMs And Money
08:25 Chatbots And Trust
24:53 Ethical Porn Debate
29:09 Leaks And Consent
33:30 Audience Pressure
40:15 AI And The Future

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Rae Szereszewski, a sexual health educator and relationship coach, to discuss sexual choking/strangulation, noting there is no fully safe way but there are harm-reduction approaches and a need for teen education beyond pregnancy/STIs given porn influence. Rae reframes STI education as “not if, but when,” focuses on non-stigmatizing disclosure and communication, advocates “team disclosure." They also cover sex-positive space etiquette, consent as a spectrum, and aligning words and actions with better check-ins.

Key Points:
08:12 Why Kink Feels Good
16:32 Adult Sex Ed on STIs
29:05 Free Testing Access
35:11 Kink Scene Etiquette
40:51 Consent Beyond Asking

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, we take a trip down memory lane as Cam shares a presentation he gave at Camp Lovehoney back in 2020. He explains how toys and lube can support sexual health and pleasure, including using masturbators to help premature ejaculation and erectile difficulties by retraining stroke patterns and reducing friction, and using edging to prolong arousal. Cam highlights prostate play as a pathway to non-ejaculatory prostate orgasms, multi-orgasmic potential, and greater empathy as a penetrative partner, citing survey findings that partners of men who’ve explored anal penetration report higher satisfaction. He shares Lovehoney study stats on toy use and reviews products including a thrusting masturbator with dirty-talk audio, a vibrating couples ring, and a remote-controlled prostate massager, plus previews upcoming BlowMotion masturbators and answers audience questions.

Key points:
06:56 Toys For Performance And Control
11:10 Edging And Prostate Orgasms
19:18 Thrusting Masturbator Demo
24:54 Couples Vibrating Ring
28:27 Remote Prostate Massager Review
30:16 New BlowMotion Teaser
32:55 Lube And Toy Care Basics
33:32 Audience Q&A