Free The Moms

Hey babe—this episode came straight from an IG Live with Nicole (aka Coco) that was too good not to live forever.

We’re talking about goals, timelines, deadlines, and the sneaky way we let external things decide how we feel about ourselves—the scale, money, progress, and whether we’re on track. And one of my favorite parts of this whole conversation is the idea of being the "label maker."

Nothing actually means anything until we label it. A missed deadline. A number on the scale. A goal you didn’t hit exactly the way you planned. Failure isn’t a fact—it’s a label. And you’re the one holding the label maker.

In this episode, Nicole and I talk about how to keep dreaming and setting goals without using them as a weapon against yourself. How to let timelines be information instead of a verdict. And why the “when” is kind of none of your business… but still helpful as a mile marker.

This conversation is for you if you want to:
Stop labeling everything as a failure
Learn how to set goals without fear or self-punishment
Understand how external metrics quietly hijack your emotions
Use timelines as data, not self-worth
Practice having your own back—even when things don’t go as planned

You don’t need to stop dreaming to feel safe. You don’t need to stop setting goals to protect yourself. You just need to choose better labels.

And if this episode hits and you want support doing this work in your own life—around weight loss, self-trust, and freedom—come find me at lauraconley.com. We don’t do shame here, babe 💖
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This week on the Coco & Lala Show, I’m sitting down with Nicole to talk about how we’re actually planning a new year—without burning ourselves out, shaming ourselves, or pretending we’re robots.

We’ve both lived the extremes. We’ve set way too many goals, gone all-in with big energy, and watched it fall apart a few weeks later. And we’ve also been in seasons where it felt easier to opt out altogether because trying again felt exhausting. In this episode, we’re talking about the middle path—the place where real, sustainable change actually happens.

We share why extreme goal-setting is so tempting (hello dopamine), why it rarely lasts, and how we’re choosing to approach 2026 in a way that fits real life. This conversation is especially for anyone coming out of the holidays feeling tired, overstimulated, or behind before the year has even really begun.

In this Coco & Lala conversation, we talk about:
- Why all-or-nothing goal setting keeps us stuck
- What the “middle path” looks like in our real lives
- How we’re choosing 1–3 meaningful goals instead of overwhelming ourselves
- Why we plan for mistakes instead of pretending we won’t make them
- How perfectionism sneaks in and quietly derails progress
- What we do when motivation feels low or nonexistent
- Why joy belongs in the plan—not as a reward later
- How we use fresh-start energy without turning it into pressure
- Why who we become matters more than whether we hit the goal perfectly

If you’re feeling discouraged, unmotivated, or like you’re already behind, I want you to hear this: nothing has gone wrong. You’re allowed to move at your own pace. You’re allowed to do this differently. And you don’t need your entire year figured out to take the next right step.

And if this conversation resonates and you’re ready to take this work deeper, come join me inside the Yummy Mummy Experience. This is where we take these ideas and turn them into real, sustainable change—with coaching, tools, and support to help you lose weight and live your life without burning out.

Learn more at lauraconley.com.

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Welcome to Day 5 of the Drop Five Pounds While Life Is Life-ing Challenge — and no, this is not the end. It’s the beginning.

Today we’re talking about the skill that changes everything: allow power. Because if weight loss has always felt hard, exhausting, or like a constant battle with yourself, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you’ve been taught to rely on willpower — and willpower always runs out.

In this episode, I break down what actually happens when the cupcake shows up after you said you wouldn’t have one. Why fighting yourself makes urges stronger. Why restriction fuels obsession. And why most people think they only have two options: eat the food or white-knuckle it.

I’m teaching you a third option — allow power — the skill of letting urges exist without acting on them, without shaming yourself, and without going to war with your body. This is how you decondition overeating at the root. This is how desire softens instead of screaming louder. This is how weight loss becomes sustainable.

We also talk about choice versus victim mentality, why “I can’t have that” is the fastest way to quit, and how unanswered urges actually rewire your brain over time. This is the work that leads to your natural weight — not through force, but through trust.

In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why willpower is not a renewable resource (and why it always fails)
- The two common reactions to cravings — and why both keep you stuck
- What allow power actually is and how it feels in your body
- How to let urges rise and fall without eating or resisting
- Why accepting discomfort is different from white-knuckling
- How unanswered urges lower desire over time
- The difference between “I can’t” and “I choose not to”
- Why this skill changes not just food, but your entire life

Your homework for today:
When an urge for food shows up, practice allow power for just 10–15 seconds. Take a breath. Let the urge be there. Notice what you actually need. See what happens when you don’t rush to fix or fight it. Start collecting unanswered urges — this is how you build freedom.

If you need support or coaching, email me at [email protected].

And if you’re ready to take this work deeper, the Yummy Mummy Experience starts January 20th. It’s a six-month group coaching program that guarantees you lose weight for the last time — or your money back. Learn more or book a call at lauraconley.com.

I love you so much. This is where everything shifts. 💖

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Welcome to Day 4 of the Drop Five Pounds While Life Is Life-ing Challenge — and today we’re tackling one of the most misunderstood parts of weight loss: hunger.

So many of us have been taught that hunger is a problem to solve, suppress, or avoid at all costs. But hunger isn’t the enemy. Ignoring it, fearing it, or fighting it is what keeps you stuck in overeating, binge–restrict cycles, and food obsession.

In this episode, I break down the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger, and why learning to trust your body again is a non-negotiable if you want to lose weight for the last time. We talk about what normal hunger actually feels like, why letting yourself get overly hungry backfires, and how diet culture has trained us to disconnect from our body’s signals.

You’ll also learn how to eat in a way that stabilizes your hunger hormones so you’re not white-knuckling your way through the day — and why honoring hunger builds trust with yourself faster than any “discipline” ever could.

This episode is about safety. About listening instead of controlling. And about learning that your body is not broken — it’s been trying to talk to you this whole time.

In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why hunger is a normal, neutral signal — not a problem
- The difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger
- What happens when you ignore hunger for too long
- How restriction fuels overeating and food noise
- Why trusting your body is a skill (and how to rebuild it)
- How balanced eating supports hunger hormones
- What to do when hunger shows up earlier than expected
- Why honoring hunger actually makes weight loss easier

Your homework for today:
Throughout the day, pause before you eat and ask: “Am I physically hungry, emotionally hungry, or both?” Eat when you’re hungry without judgment, and notice what it feels like to respond with curiosity instead of control. Write down what you observe — no fixing, no shaming.

If you want support or coaching, email me at [email protected].

And if you’re ready to stop fighting your body and start working with it, come join me inside the Yummy Mummy Experience — my six-month group coaching program that guarantees results or your money back. Learn more or sign up at lauraconley.com.

Love you, babes. I’ll see you tomorrow for Day 5. 💖

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Welcome to Day 3 of the Drop Five Pounds While Life Is Life-ing Challenge — the day we stop pretending life is ever going to calm down.

Day one was about creating a solid plan. Day two was about anchoring that plan to compelling reasons that actually move you. Today is where it gets real. Because a plan without a plan for when life blows up… isn’t a real plan.

In this episode, we’re talking about what *actually* happens when life is life-ing — when schedules implode, stress spikes, kids melt down, cravings hit, and your brain starts offering “helpful” excuses like, “Screw it, I’ll start Monday.” Instead of waiting for a perfect, imaginary window where nothing goes wrong, we build the skill of honoring your plan *inside* the chaos.

I walk you through how to identify your personal obstacles — not vague ones, but stupid-specific ones — and how to create strategies ahead of time so you’re not relying on willpower in the moment. We talk about how your lower brain works, why it defaults to pleasure and avoidance, and how to pre-program responses that actually support the version of you you’re becoming.

This is the difference between wishful thinking and real commitment. Not white-knuckling. Not perfection. Devotion. Planning for mistakes. Learning instead of shaming. And building trust with yourself when life doesn’t cooperate.

In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why waiting for a “perfect time” guarantees you stay stuck
- What “life is life-ing” actually looks like (and why it’s normal)
- How your lower brain sabotages plans through pleasure-seeking and avoidance
- Why a plan without obstacle strategies isn’t a real plan
- How to identify your exact personal triggers (stress, PMS, parties, exhaustion, leftovers, etc.)
- The two types of strategies you need: thought strategies and do strategies
- How to stop shame spirals and “look back with love” after a mistake
- Why mistakes only become failures when you don’t extract the lesson

Your homework for today:
On the left side of a page, list 10 very specific situations where life tends to derail your plan. On the right side, write your strategies — what you’ll think, say, or do instead when those moments happen. Set a 5–7 minute timer and get it done, even if your brain throws a tantrum.

If you want support, feedback, or coaching, email me at [email protected].

And if you’re ready to stop relying on motivation and start building skills that last, come join me inside the Yummy Mummy Experience — my six-month group coaching program that guarantees you lose weight for the last time or your money back. Learn more or sign up at lauraconley.com.

Love you, babes. I’ll see you tomorrow for Day 4. 💖

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