Ep 22 Part 2 Heavy Drinking or Alcoholism? Not Sure If Hubby Can Stop Drinking Or Not?
Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that delays the healing process.
In this episode, we talk about why trying to “figure him out” won’t fix anything—and what you can do instead. Whether your husband meets a textbook definition or not, the chaos still hurts, and you deserve peace.
You'll hear:
Why obsessing over the “right” label can keep wives stuck in fear and codependency
4 litmus test questions to help you decide when a boundary is needed
How both heavy drinking and alcoholism cause emotional instability in the home
A Christian perspective on stepping forward without all the answers
Real-life discussion of when helping crosses the line into enabling
This episode is an invitation to stop diagnosing and start discerning what God is calling you to do in your family.
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EP 21 Part 1 Is It Alcoholism Or Just Heavy Drinking? Where Is The Line?
Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or online quizzes—hoping that labeling his behavior will give you peace.
In this episode, we break down what the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says about the three types of drinkers, including what defines a “real alcoholic”—and why understanding this framework may help, but it’s not your responsibility to diagnose.
You'll hear:
A clear overview of the 3 drinker types described in AA literature
What a "real alcoholic" looks like according to the Big Book
Why this knowledge can offer insight—but also keep wives stuck
Real-life home examples of what each type might look like in daily life
Encouragement for Christian wives navigating confusion and chaos
This episode offers education—not to label your husband—but to help you understand what you’re dealing with and why his drinking affects your heart and home either way.
If you want to read the full chapter regarding this in the Big Book of AA here is a link to the Big Book for free online on the AA website. Scroll down for Chapter 2. There is a Solution. (pp.17-29)
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book
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Ep 20 Helping Your Husband Or Enabling Addiction? A Litmus Test For Wives
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re helping your husband or enabling his addiction, this episode is for you. As Christian wives, we’re called to love and support—but when codependency creeps in, it can be hard to tell if our actions are helping or hurting.
In today’s episode, I share two simple but powerful questions—your litmus test—to help you decide where a boundary might be needed. These questions will help you check your motives, discern if you're stepping into an enabler role, and bring clarity to those hard, in-the-moment decisions.
We’ll talk about how not setting boundaries can leave you feeling more like his mother than his wife, and how resentment often builds when we’re stuck in a cycle of codependency. We'll also explore the ever-shifting line between helping from a place of faith and unintentionally enabling, and why that line often has to be redrawn with each situation.
If you're navigating the storm of loving a man in addiction and want to reclaim your peace, this episode offers both practical tools and spiritual encouragement.
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📩 Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com – I’d love to support you.
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Ep 19 Peace in the Chaos Starts Here: A Mindset for Boundaries as the Wife of an Alcoholic
In this episode on boundaries, we return to the basics—what they are, why they matter, and how they serve as a powerful shield for your peace. Think of boundaries not as walls to keep your husband out, but as a protective dome that creates space between you and the chaos of addiction. This distance isn’t about punishment—it’s about preserving your well-being and protecting your children.
If you're a Christian wife navigating life with an alcoholic husband, this episode is for you. Whether you’re just beginning to explore boundaries or need a fresh reminder of why they matter, you’ll find clarity and encouragement here.
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If you're struggling to set healthy boundaries and need outside perspective, support, and accountability, I’m opening up a handful of 1-on-1 sessions soon. Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com to be added to the list.
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Ep 18 //Interview// An Alcoholic Husband’s Perspective: Pre Recovery + Active Alcoholism Thought Process Of Denial and Minimization
Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking!? Active Addiction comes with all kinds of twisted thinking in the mind to justify otherwise unhealthy behavior. In this powerful episode, we delve into the intricate journey from a husband's perspective as alcohol steadily takes command over life. I'm joined by my husband, who courageously opens up about the deep, internal conflict he faced during his battle with alcoholism trying to prove alcohol wasn’t a problem.
For many men, the path down this dark road is marked by denial, shame, and an overwhelming sense of being trapped. If you're striving to understand what happens when alcohol becomes the silent third party in your marriage, this episode sheds light on just that.
Join us as we discuss:
1. **The Subtle Descent**: How my husband first began to notice alcohol's grip tightening around his life, evolving from a social pastime to a looming dependency.
2. **Living a Double Life**: Listen as he shares the internal battle between projecting a facade of control and feeling engulfed by the chaos within as he fought the truth that alcoholism was taking over.
3. **Denial and Justification**: A raw look at the excuses he made to himself and others, all while the addiction quietly reshaped his world.
In opening his heart, my husband provides invaluable insights into the mind of someone entangled in addiction’s clutches. Our candid discussion is an invitation to wives seeking understanding, drawing the curtain back to illuminate the complexities faced by christian men dealing with addiction and offer a pathway to empathy and healing in the marital relationship.
Today’s Referenced Quote:
”Addiction is a response to human suffering”
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About Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery
Did you marry the man of your dreams, only to now find alcohol seeping into every part of your family? As a woman of faith, committed to your vows, do you struggle to walk out your convictions amidst the chaos and confusion that has devastated your marriage? Do you wish you had someone to confide in without judgment, consequences later or let’s be honest, hearing the worst advice EVER from well meaning people? Despite your relentless efforts, do you feel betrayed, stuck in a cycle, praying for a breakthrough and wondering if things really will be ok? This is how everything was in my marriage for SO long!! I get it!
In this podcast you will find hope regardless of your current situation. As you tune in each week your spirit will be lifted as you recognize that you are NOT in this battle alone. You will come to know that only through Him can you learn to model a much needed peaceful presence to your children, whose little hearts are also wondering if things will be ok. My mission is to share my experience, strength and hope with women like me who are praying for breakthrough. The Lord’s light shines even in the darkness of addiction, and the darkness cannot overcome it.
I am a wife, a homeschooling momma, and a woman who has learned that nothing is impossible for God. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t had to learn all of this while withstanding circumstances that I would have rather avoided - but then would my faith be this strong without all the trials? You might listen and mistakenly assume that I have it “all figured out”, because if I am honest, I still can’t figure out how to keep track of my phone most days. However, I , without a doubt, have found a peace that surpasses understanding and I want to share everything God has taught me with you as you navigate this road as well. I have found that applying the Bible to my situation allows me to shift my eyes off the problem and to refocus on my God who can redeem and restore otherwise hopeless situations. Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Cast your burdens on the Lord and he will sustain you. He will not permit the righteous to be moved”.
In the eye of the storm it is hard to have a right perspective when everyday you are walking on eggshells trying to keep your family together! I have a suspicion that I am not alone here and if you can relate with anything I have said, then this podcast is for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes, right? :) So, if you are ready to experience some breakthrough, listen up. You do not have to do this alone and you didn’t find this podcast by accident.
Take a deep breath even when it seems impossible. Be willing to trust that God can do more than you even imagine.....right where you are today which is so far from where you wanted to be. I know you are running everywhere and doing everything for everyone, but THIS moment of rest is for you! Allow me to serve you a little peace on the rocks.
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