Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

What I Discussed With Dr. Justin Lehmiller
- How men's sexual health and desire can change as they get older.
- Why erectile difficulties become more common with age and where Viagra fits in.
- Why sex toys can be useful for men and how to choose the right kind of stimulation.
- How to introduce sex toys into a relationship without making things awkward.
- What penis pumps can do for erectile difficulties and sexual function.
- Why masturbation and orgasm may have benefits beyond sexual pleasure.

Chapters
00:00 Sponsor: OhMiBod
01:46 How men's sexual function changes with age
04:27 Why men don't talk about sexual problems
05:46 Erectile difficulties and Viagra
07:28 Sex toys for men
09:03 Vibratory toys and penile health
12:43 Finding the right toy
14:53 Introducing toys into a relationship
18:01 Penis pumps and erectile difficulties
21:53 Sexual activity and aging
24:15 Sex, orgasms and cognitive function
25:42 Masturbation and better sleep
26:55 Choosing and caring for sex toys
28:59 Researching sex and aging

Show Notes
Men's sexual health changes as we get older, but that doesn't mean we stop being sexual.
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author of Tell Me What You Want, to talk about men's sexuality, aging, erections and pleasure.
We talk about what happens to sexual function as men get older, including erectile difficulties and changes in desire. We also get into sex toys, vibratory stimulation and penis pumps, and why these can be useful tools for men who want to explore different ways of experiencing pleasure.
We also talk about masturbation, orgasms and sleep, and some of the research around sexual activity and wellbeing as we age.
Most importantly, this is a conversation about taking some of the pressure out of sex and being willing to explore what works for your body at different stages of life.

Key Takeaways
- Sexual function and desire can change with age, but there is no single experience of aging.
- Erectile difficulties can have different causes and shouldn't automatically be viewed as an inevitable part of getting older.
- Sex toys can offer men different forms of stimulation and can be part of partnered sex.
- Penis pumps can be one option for men experiencing erectile difficulties.
- Masturbation and orgasm can be part of sexual wellness at any age.
- There is still a need for more research into men's sexual health and aging.

About Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, and host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs.

About Suzanne
Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and relationships in later life.
Through her podcast, newsletter, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and encourages people to stay curious about their bodies and sexual wellbeing at every age.

Connect With Suzanne
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors
Substack: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Connect With Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Website https://www.sexandpsychology.com/
Instagram @JustinJLehmiller https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller
TikTok @JustinLehmiller https://www.tiktok.com/@justinlehmiller
YouTube @JustinLehmiller https://www.youtube.com/@JustinLehmiller
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex

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What I Discussed With Mary Ellen Reider
- Why bladder leakage is common but should not be treated as an inevitable part of aging.
- What the pelvic floor is and why everyone has one.
- How childbirth, menopause, aging, weight, and other factors can affect pelvic floor strength.
- The connection between pelvic floor muscles, bladder control, sexual sensation, and orgasm.
- Why pelvic floor relaxation is just as important as strengthening.
- How the Yarlap device works and who may benefit from it.
- Why it is never too late to start caring for your pelvic floor.

Chapters
00:00 Sponsor: OhMiBod + Introduction to Mary Ellen Reider
01:40 What Is the Pelvic Floor and Why Does It Matter?
03:40 Why Bladder Leakage Is Common But Not Normal
05:46 How Pelvic Floor Weakness Affects Your Body
07:49 Introducing Yarlap: Pelvic Floor Training and Sexual Wellness
10:17 Why Pelvic Floor Exercises Are Difficult to Do Correctly
11:11 How Pelvic Floor Training Works Over Time
12:06 How Long Does It Take to See Results?
12:52 What Causes Urinary Incontinence?
14:12 How Bladder Leaks Affect Confidence, Dating and Intimacy
16:13 The Connection Between Pelvic Floor Strength and Orgasms
17:40 Female Sexual Wellness and Understanding the Body
19:51 Why Pelvic Floor Relaxation Matters Too
22:10 Understanding Pelvic Floor Tone: Too Tight vs Too Weak
25:00 Talking to Your Doctor About Pelvic Floor Health
26:46 It’s Never Too Late to Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor
28:21 Closing Thoughts: Removing Shame Around Women’s Health
28:57 Visit Sex Advice for Seniors

Shownotes
Bladder leakage is common, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept it as an unavoidable part of aging.
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with MaryEllen Reider, co-director of Yarlap, about pelvic floor health, urinary incontinence, sexual confidence, and what happens when those important muscles become weak or overly tight.
We talk about what the pelvic floor actually is, why both women and men have one, and how it supports the bladder, uterus, spine, and other parts of the body. Mary Ellen explains why leakage when you laugh, sneeze, exercise, or cough should not simply be dismissed as “one of those things” that happens after childbirth or menopause.
We also explore the connection between the pelvic floor and sexual pleasure, including why some women experience weaker orgasms or reduced sensation as their pelvic floor changes. And importantly, we discuss why relaxation matters just as much as contraction when it comes to pelvic floor function and intimacy.
MaryEllen explains how the Yarlap device is designed to support pelvic floor training, why Kegel exercises are not necessarily suitable for everyone, and why it’s important to understand whether your pelvic floor is weak, tight, or both.
Most importantly, this episode is about replacing embarrassment with information. Whether you’re dealing with bladder leakage, painful sex, reduced sexual sensation, or simply want to take better care of your body, it is never too late to start paying attention to your pelvic floor.

Key Takeaways
- Urinary incontinence is common, but it is not an inevitable part of aging.
- Everyone has a pelvic floor, and it supports both physical and sexual health.
- A weak pelvic floor may affect bladder control, posture, back pain, knee pain, and orgasmic sensation.
- A pelvic floor that is too tight may also cause pain and discomfort.
- Strengthening and relaxation are both essential for healthy pelvic floor function.
- Pelvic floor health can affect confidence, dating, intimacy, and sexual pleasure.
- It is never too late to ask a doctor about your pelvic floor.

About MaryEllen Reider
MaryEllen Reider is the co-director of Yarlap®, the wellness device to treat urinary incontinence and improve feminine performance and experience through muscle control. MaryEllen spends a lot of time researching and finding out what’s new in the pelvic floor world and the social media realm.

About Suzanne
Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and relationships in later life.
Through her podcast, newsletter, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and encourages people to stay curious about their bodies and sexual wellbeing at every age.

Connect With Suzanne
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors
Substack: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Connect with MaryEllen
Website https://yarlap.com/
Instagram @yarlap_otc https://www.instagram.com/yarlap_otc/
TikTok @yarlap_otc https://www.tiktok.com/@yarlap_otc
YouTube @yarlap_otc
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/yarlapwautokegel

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What I Discussed With Amy Gabrielle
- How losing a partner can change our relationship with our body, identity, and desire.
- Why grief and pleasure can exist alongside each other after loss.
- Amy’s experience of rediscovering sexuality and confidence after becoming a widow.
- Dating after loss, including her experiences with dating apps and exploring new relationships.
- How women can reconnect with their own desires without shame or guilt.
- Why sexuality does not disappear as we get older.
- The difference between seeking connection, companionship, and emotional security.
- How society shapes the way women think about aging, relationships, and sexual expression.
- Why rebuilding a relationship with yourself can be an important part of healing.
- How honest conversations about sex and desire can create more freedom and confidence.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction: Amy Gabrielle on Desire After Loss
03:00 Losing a Partner and Rediscovering Desire
08:00 Dating After Loss and Starting Over
13:30 Sexual Desire, Relationships and Life After 50
18:00 What We Want From Relationships Now
22:00 Widow’s Fire: When Grief and Desire Meet
26:00 Sex, Aging and Challenging Expectations
30:00 Shame, Confidence and Accepting Your Body
34:00 Dating, Boundaries and Finding What Feels Right
37:00 Pleasure, Freedom and Owning Your Desire
40:00 Closing Thoughts and Amy’s Book Widow in the City

Shownotes
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by Amy Gabrielle, writer, digital creator, and author of Widow in the City.
After losing her husband to cancer, Amy found herself navigating grief, identity, and an unexpected return of desire. In our conversation, we explore what happens when loss changes the way we see ourselves, our bodies, and our relationships.
We talk about the complicated relationship between grief and pleasure, the experience of dating after loss, and what it means to rediscover yourself in midlife.
Amy shares openly about rebuilding confidence, exploring sexuality, and letting go of the shame that many women carry around aging and desire.
This is a conversation about much more than sex. It is about identity, healing, connection, and giving ourselves permission to continue growing and changing throughout life.

Key Takeaways
- Grief does not erase desire; both can exist at the same time.
- Rediscovering yourself after loss can be a powerful part of healing.
- Sexuality and intimacy continue to evolve as we age.
- Women deserve to explore their own desires without shame or judgment.
- Relationships after 50 do not have to follow traditional expectations.
- Confidence often comes from reconnecting with yourself first.
- Honest conversations about sex can help reduce shame and create deeper connections.

About the Guest
Amy Gabrielle is a writer, digital creator, and advocate for authentic self-expression in midlife women. Following her husband’s death from cancer, she began using memoir and social media to explore the complex intersection of grief and desire, cultivating a community of thousands drawn to honest conversations about life after loss. Her work appears in Absolute Pleasure on Substack, as well as Medium publications including The Memoirist and Slackjaw. She lives in New York City, where she enjoys photography, travel, and raising her son.

About Suzanne
Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast for people who want to enjoy sex, intimacy, and connection at every age.
Through her podcast, newsletter, courses, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and offers honest, practical conversations about sexuality, ageing, relationships, and pleasure.

Connect With Suzanne
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors
Substack: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Connect with Amy
Website https://amygabrielle.com/
Instagram @amygabriellenyc https://www.instagram.com/amygabriellenyc/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/amygabriellenyc

Want More?
Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.
Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie
Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com
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Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm
Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

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What I Discussed With Dr Jess O’Reilly
- Why sex toys can help couples adapt to changing bodies, arousal, and sexual needs as they get older.
- How introducing a toy can create novelty and playfulness in a long-term relationship.
- Why a sex toy is a tool for pleasure — not a replacement for intimacy or a partner.
- How smaller, simpler toys can make introducing them into a relationship feel less intimidating.
- Why toys can reduce performance pressure when erections, libido, or orgasm become less predictable.
- How self-pleasure can help women understand what they like and communicate it more clearly.
- Why desire doesn’t always come before arousal, particularly in long-term relationships and later life.
- How shame and embarrassment can stop older adults from talking openly about sex.
- Why conversations about sex don’t need to be perfect to be useful.
- How the Yes/No/Maybe checklist can help couples explore sexual interests together.

Chapters
00:00 Introducing Dr Jess O’Reilly and the conversation about sex toys
01:30 Why sex toys can improve intimacy in long-term relationships
02:34 The importance of novelty as our bodies change with age
04:36 Why some men feel threatened by sex toys
06:20 How toys can reduce performance pressure
07:14 Choosing versatile, accessible toys for different bodies
08:38 How sex toys open up better conversations
09:03 Using toys when erections or sexual performance are unreliable
10:30 Why pleasure matters more than performance
10:51 Choosing toys for different sensations and mobility needs
11:59 Why simple controls can make toys easier to use
13:58 The best couples’ sex toys for beginners
15:21 How air-pulse pleasure feels different from vibration
16:08 Understanding the clitoris and changing sensations
19:45 Why desire can begin after arousal
21:17 Learning to trust your body and your capacity for pleasure
22:47 Why satisfying sex and communication need to come first
24:06 Shame, aging, and the pressure placed on older women
25:20 Why talking about sex can protect long-term relationships
27:59 How to start a conversation about sex toys with your partner
30:52 A simple way to introduce a new toy without pressure
33:45 The Yes/No/Maybe checklist for couples
35:05 Dr Jess introduces the Womanizer Enhance
36:10 Where to find more from Dr Jess and Suzanne

Show Notes
I’ve always been fascinated by sex toys. I was first given one when I was a blogger in the early 2000s, and these days I have boxes of them perhaps more than I really need.
But sex toys aren’t just about novelty or having a large collection. They can be genuinely useful as our bodies change, especially when arousal takes longer, sensitivity shifts, or erections and orgasms become less predictable.
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by Dr Jess O’Reilly, a globally recognised sexologist and relationship expert. Jess has a PhD in human sexuality and has delivered workshops in more than 45 countries.
We talk about how couples can introduce sex toys without making either partner feel inadequate or threatened. We also discuss why starting with something simple can make all the difference, how toys can take the pressure off performance, and why pleasure should be viewed as a shared exploration rather than a test that someone has to pass.
Jess and I also talk about the changing nature of desire. Sometimes we don’t feel spontaneously “in the mood”, but that doesn’t necessarily mean our desire has disappeared. With patience, touch, communication, and the right kind of stimulation, arousal can sometimes come first and desire can follow.
We explore the role of masturbation, shame, sexual communication, and the importance of understanding what feels good in your own body before trying to explain it to someone else.
And if you’re not sure how to bring up the subject of sex toys with your partner, we have a simple suggestion: blame us. Tell them you heard about a product or idea on this podcast and ask what they think.

Key Takeaways
- Sex toys can help couples adapt to changing bodies and sexual responses.
- Introducing a toy does not mean that a partner is inadequate.
- The simplest toy is often the best place to begin.
- Pleasure and connection matter more than sexual performance.
- Desire may develop after arousal, rather than appearing beforehand.
- Self-pleasure can improve communication between partners.
- Talking about sex may feel awkward, but avoiding the conversation can create greater distance and resentment.

About the Guest
Jess O’Reilly is a sexologist & relationship expert (PhD, MSc) who has delivered thousands of workshops in 45+ countries. She’s the author of 5 books, host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast and a regular in media outlets ranging from Oprah Magazine and The Today Show to Playboy and Forbes.

About Suzanne
Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast for people who want to enjoy sex, intimacy, and connection at every age.
Through her podcast, newsletter, courses, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and offers honest, practical conversations about sexuality, ageing, relationships, and pleasure.

Connect With Suzanne
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors
Substack: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Connect With Dr Jess O’Reilly
Website https://happiercouples.com/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithdrjess/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithdrjess/
The Sex With Dr Jess Podcast https://happiercouples.com/podcasts/

Want More?
Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.
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Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com
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Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm
Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

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What I Discussed With Eric M. Resnick...
- Why the swipe apps trained women to chase the dopamine hit of a match, and stopped everyone from looking at who they were actually matching with
- The one word Eric uses for Tinder and Bumble, and why he calls them exactly that
- What ChatGPT admitted to Eric, in its own words, about why it's bad at writing dating profiles
- Why my own list of dealbreakers might be doing more damage than the men on it
- The reason women over 50 still hesitate to message first, and why Eric says the men who get put off by it were never worth the risk
- What dating apps actually do to your visibility if you don't log in for two weeks
- Why a naked photo without a face has no value, and a naked photo with a face is a liability
- What made my late partner Bob's Tinder profile the most authentic one Eric's ever heard described to him

Chapters
00:00 – Sponsor spotlight: OhMiBod https://www.ohmibod.com/
00:20 – Introducing dating profile veteran Eric Resnick to tackle why most online bios fall completely flat.
02:17 – Looking back at how online dating evolved from early matchmakers to addictive swipe culture.
04:40 – The brutal swipe statistics between men and women that broke app dynamics.
05:40 – How meeting his wife on a niche site proves there really is someone out there for everyone.
06:14 – Reflecting on early dial-up dating sites and the modern shift toward casual hookup apps.
08:04 – Why incognito mode is a total game-changer for women navigating overwhelming inboxes.
09:07 – The biggest profile writing traps men fall into when trying to sell themselves.
10:05 – Why letting AI tools like ChatGPT write your dating bio completely kills authentic chemistry.
12:10 – Sponsor spotlight: GITM Playbook.
12:45 – The hidden danger of listing red flags and past relationship baggage on your profile.
15:40 – The hard truth about why dating success comes down to who you choose, not who chooses you.
17:00 – Why making the first move as a woman over 50 is an empowering shortcut.
18:03 – How dating app algorithms track daily logins and quietly lower your visibility.
20:50 – Why dystopian AI avatars and paid profile boosts keep daters hooked on the screen.
22:50 – Turning your profile into an authentic conversation starter instead of an empty checklist.
26:23 – Why a great dating profile acts as a window into your world rather than a sales pitch.
28:55 – The blunt truth about unsolicited photos and the golden rules of photo etiquette.
31:30 – Suzanne and Eric wrap up with key strategies for showing up authentically and finding connection.

Show Notes
I've been on dating apps since 2000, same as my guest this week. So when Eric Resnick, founder of ProfileHelper.com, told me he's read more than 40,000 dating profiles and consulted for the platforms themselves, I knew this was going to be a conversation I couldn't have with almost anyone else.
We started with how different online dating looked in 2000, back when it was Match.com and dial-up modems, and how Tinder changed everything the moment it made swiping possible without writing a word. Eric calls swipe apps a dopamine slot machine, and he means it literally: they train you to chase the feeling of a match, not the person behind it.
Then things got personal. I admitted my own profile has a list on it. Bad teeth, beer bellies, things I don't want. Eric didn't let me off easy. He explained exactly what that list has been doing to the men who read it, and why the healthiest ones see it as a red flag before they've even said hello.
We also got into why AI can't write a profile that means anything, because AI aims for the middle, and if you're acceptable to everyone, you're not special to anyone. And we talked about the algorithms themselves, the visibility rankings, the fear of missing out tricks, and why Eric thinks the newest AI matching features are the most dystopian thing he's seen yet.
This one runs a little short because I had to get to the theatre. Eric's already agreed to come back for a whole episode on photos.
Listen, learn and enjoy.

Key Takeaways
- Swipe apps like Tinder and Bumble train people to chase matches, not connection. Eric calls them a dopamine slot machine.
- Lists of what you don't want in a profile read as unresolved baggage. Healthy matches see it as a red flag, not a filter.
- AI-written profiles fail because AI aims for the widest possible appeal, and being acceptable to everyone means being memorable to no one.
- Success on a dating app comes down to who you choose, not who chooses you, on any app with a search function.
- Dating apps use visibility tiers to keep you logging in daily, and some allegedly rank profiles by popularity.
- An authentic profile is a window into your world, not a sales pitch. Specific details invite conversation; vague ones don't.
- Never post nude photos. A photo without a face has no value, and one with a face is a blackmail risk.
- Women over 50 are often the most hesitant to message first, a habit Eric says has nothing to do with how it will actually be received by the right person.

About the Guest
Eric M. Resnick is the founder and lead profile advisor at ProfileHelper.com. He has worked with more than 40,000 individual daters since 2000 and has consulted for major dating platforms on what actually makes a profile work.

About Suzanne
Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast, one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.

Connect With Suzanne
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors
Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

Connect with Eric M. Resnick
Website: https://profilehelper.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profilehelper
X: https://x.com/profilehelper

Want More?
Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.
Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie
Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com
Overcome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.com
Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm
Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

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