Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story.
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond.
We dive into Monica’s surprisingly simple “3% rule” - a powerful framework for maintaining intimacy, connection, and communication without needing to overhaul your entire life. We also unpack why resentment builds in long-term relationships, how health challenges affect sexual intimacy in older adults, and whether it’s truly possible to change relationship patterns after decades together.
If you’re navigating love, sex, and connection in later life, this episode offers practical, realistic tools you can start using today.
What You’ll Learn:
·       The “3% rule” for relationship success and why small time investments create big intimacy gains
·       How to maintain emotional and sexual connection in your 50s, 60s, and 70s
·       Why resentment in long-term relationships is often unspoken desire
·       The daily habit that keeps couples from drifting apart over time
·       How illness, aging, and health issues impact intimacy... and how to adapt
·       Why couples delay important conversations about sex, needs, and expectations
·       Whether it’s possible to change deeply ingrained relationship patterns later in life
Key Topics & Keywords:
Sex advice for seniors, intimacy after 60, relationships in later life, sexual health for older adults, maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships, marriage advice for older couples, communication in relationships, emotional connection in aging, sex and aging, overcoming resentment in relationships, relationship coaching, Relational Life Therapy, intimacy after illness, rekindling connection in later life
About Monica Tanner:
Monica Tanner is a relationship coach, Relational Life Therapy practitioner, and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast. She helps couples create deeper connection, better communication, and lasting intimacy - no matter how long they’ve been together.
Connect with Monica:
·       Website: https://www.monicatanner.com/
·       Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-and-intimacy-tips
·       Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monitalksmarriage
·       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/monica.tanner2
·       YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafter
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In this lively conversation with Dr. Trina Read, a globally recognised sexologist, author, and one of the “most trusted voices on long-term intimacy,” we discuss the new wave of sex toys, namely those created by a company called Tracey’s Dog, which is “beta-ing” a toy called Drill Me. Yes, you read that correctly.
A company that sounds like it should be making pet products, which is what it originally was, has now entered the world of “teledildonics” (apparently, that’s a thing) to create a product that allows you to have sex with, for example, a werewolf (Hugh Jackman, are you listening?) via an avatar you can create. Or a doctor. A fireman. In fact, any fantasy you might have, whether it’s a younger or older man, a man in uniform, or a sexy beast.
You name it, and apparently the Aiphy app can create it, allowing you to move beyond the mediocre sex you may be experiencing in real life and have the kind of sex you’ve always desired. This, folks, is our future.
Or is it?
Trina and I discuss whether over-50s are ready for, or even interested in, sex toys of this variety, whether AI avatars can replace real people, and the pros and cons of this new technology.
I won’t give away the outcome. Instead, I hope you’ll listen to this Substack Live, which was a lot of fun. And, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!


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The wonderful Amara Charles and I talk about how to design your sexual life as you age. How to experience pleasure, and what if an ageing body isn’t broken, but is simply done performing?
Can later life sex become freer, wiser, more playful and more intimate than the sex we had when we were younger? Listen and find out!
Go to amaracharles.com to learn more about Amara’s work.
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He was 22, drunk, and couldn't get an erection. That night followed him for the next decade.
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, Tom Jenkins, author of The Drunk Gambler with Erectile Dysfunction, joins me for one of the most honest conversations I've had about ED.
We get into addiction, performance anxiety, why Cialis wasn't the answer, and the lifestyle overhaul that actually worked.
Tom's story is younger than my usual guests, but the patterns he describes- shame, silence, treating the symptom instead of the cause show up at every age.
If you've been too embarrassed to have this conversation, this is a good place to start.


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