The Shadow & The Light w davidji & Elizabeth Winkler

• Are you ready to change? This is your moment

  Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. Have you ever caught yourself thinking that people never really change? Or perhaps you're convinced that transformation is not only possible but inevitable? This fascinating tension between fixed and growth mindsets forms the heart of our exploration into personal transformation.davidji and Elizabeth dive deep into what makes genuine change possible, revealing that the first step isn't focusing on others but turning inward. "Put down the magnifying glass and hold up the mirror," Elizabeth suggests, offering a powerful metaphor for where true transformation begins. We unpack the cycle of change - from believing it's possible, to willingness, to taking courageous action, to celebrating small wins - and how this process creates lasting transformation rather than temporary change. But perhaps most illuminating is our discussion of how many of us live trapped in reward/punishment cycles, postponing joy while waiting for weekends, vacations, or some future moment to truly live.Drawing from Eckhart Tolle's wisdom, we explore how to transmute ordinary waiting periods into moments of presence and enjoyment. Those five years we collectively spend waiting in lines throughout our lives? They can become portals to mindfulness rather than sources of frustration. By anchoring in our bodies, connecting with nature, or simply noticing what's around us, we reclaim these "wasted" moments and infuse them with meaning.For anyone feeling stuck in patterns that no longer serve them, we offer practical techniques, including a beautiful meditation practice: "Hello, eternal loving presence." This simple phrase can interrupt negative patterns and invite connection with your deeper self, especially during difficult times.Whether you're crawling through metaphorical glass or quicksand in your own journey, we remind you that honoring where you are without judgment is the first step toward freedom. And while transformation doesn't guarantee happiness, it does lead to something perhaps more valuable—peace and a profound connection to something larger than ourselves.Join us in this episode to discover how the journey itself, not some distant destination, is where life's richness truly resides.davidji and Elizabeth explore whether people can truly change, examining how our focus on changing others distracts us from the internal transformation that matters most.• People constantly change on a cellular level, but psychological transformation requires specific conditions• True change requires belief in the possibility of change, willingness to change, and readiness to do difficult things• Breaking free from reward/punishment cycles helps us experience joy in the present moment• Waiting periods (like lines or traffic) can become opportunities for mindfulness rather than frustration• The Buddhist concept of kleshas (obstacles) explains what prevents us from experiencing our true nature• Transformation doesn't guarantee happiness but leads to peace and connection with something larger• Simple practices like saying "Hello, eternal loving presence" can interrupt negative patterns• Using the body as an anchor helps bridge from mental distraction into present moment awarenessIf you're struggling with being stuck in patterns that no longer serve you, honor where you are witWe transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

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• Regulating Your Nervous System for Inner Peace

  Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. Feeling triggered, stressed, or carrying that proverbial chip on your shoulder? You might be experiencing what meditation teacher davidji and psychotherapist Elizabeth Winkler reveal as "emotional fight-flight" – a modern evolution of our ancient survival mechanism that's wreaking havoc on our health and happiness.This eye-opening exploration takes you deep into the physiology of stress, explaining how everyday emotional reactions trigger the same hormonal cascade as life-threatening dangers. When someone comments on your appearance or questions your choices, your body responds as if facing a predator – perspiring, breathing shallowly, increasing heart rate, and even preparing your blood to clot before you're injured. The consequences of repeatedly activating this response are far more serious than momentary discomfort.davidji and Elizabeth share their most powerful "stress hacks" for instantly regulating your nervous system, including the "Fill Her Up, Top It Off" breathing technique that signals safety to your heart's natural pacemaker, and the "16-Second Reset" that breaks thought patterns and brings you back to the present moment. For those with trauma histories, they offer grounding practices that create safety before meditation, emphasizing the importance of options and awareness of your surroundings.Beyond formal techniques, discover how simple lifestyle adjustments – spending time in nature, taking walks, incorporating even five minutes of yoga daily, and maintaining a consistent meditation practice – can create what David calls "a parachuted life." Experience the immediate relief of Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing) and the powerful energy release of the "Ah" mantra as demonstrated live in the episode.Ready to transform those reactive moments into opportunities for presence and connection? These accessible practices don't just protect your health – they create the foundation for experiencing life with greater joy, clarity, and authenticity. Try them today and notice how quickly your perspective shifts from threat to possibility.Our nervous system's fight-flight response evolved from physical dangers to emotional triggers, causing the same harmful physiological changes and potentially leading to health issues when repeatedly activated.• Evolution of fight-flight response from physical to emotional triggers• Physiological changes during fight-flight: perspiration, shallow breathing, increased heart rate• Suppression of non-essential functions like immune system and digestion during stress• Emotional triggers can cause the same hormonal cascade as physical threats• "Fill Her Up, Top It Off" breathing technique to instantly reset your nervous system• The "16-Second Reset" technique to break thought patterns and return to present moment• Trauma-informed meditation approaches that create safety through grounding• Importance of giving options when guiding others through mindfulness practices• Simple lifestyle changes: nature time, walking, yoga, and consistent meditation• Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing) for balance and calm• The "Ah" mantra for releasing stagnant energy and regulating the nervous systemTry these techniques whenever you feel triggered or notice that "chip on your shoulder" appearing. Even a few We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

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• Law of Attraction: Ready to Use It? Try This Now

  Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. The Law of Attraction isn't just New Age philosophy—it's a fundamental principle operating in our lives whether we recognize it or not. davidji and Elizabeth Winkler dive deep into how this universal law actually works, exploring the fascinating relationship between attraction and distraction."Everything's frequency," Elizabeth explains, introducing her powerful "seven, seven, and seven" concept—the seven people you spend time with most, seven places you frequent, and seven behaviors you engage in regularly all contribute to your energetic resonance. This frequency directly influences what you attract into your life.In a breakthrough moment, they discover that attraction and distraction are opposite sides of the same coin. When we're distracted, we create static in our energy field like splashing in a still lake. True manifestation happens from stillness—from being present enough to direct our attention deliberately.davidji shares a compelling story about a friend who, after dating three married men, wrote down that she wanted "an unmarried man." She got exactly that—a man who wouldn't commit exclusively to her. Her intention came from fear rather than clarity about what she truly desired, demonstrating how our emotional state profoundly affects what we manifest.The hosts explore five meditation approaches that strengthen your "attention muscle": mindfulness, mantra meditation, body scanning, guided visualization, and embodied practices like metta. Finding the right practice allows you to move from distraction to conscious creation.Ready to transform how you manifest? Try Elizabeth's "seven, seven, and seven" exercise to evaluate your current resonance, then use meditation to clarify what your heart truly longs for. As David reminds us, "If the universe is inviting you to take a step, take that step and see what's next."davidji and Elizabeth Winkler explore the Law of Attraction as a real, energetic phenomenon that manifests through stillness, presence, and intentional focus.• Everything is frequency, and our energy is influenced by the seven people we spend time with most, seven places we frequent, and seven behaviors we engage in regularly• Attraction and distraction are opposite sides of the same coin—distraction creates static in your energy field while stillness allows for conscious creation• Meditation strengthens your attention muscle, allowing you to direct your awareness deliberately rather than being pulled into worry or fear• Five meditation approaches that might work for different people: mindfulness, mantra meditation, body scanning, guided visualization, and embodied practices• Manifestation must come from trust and love rather than fear and desperation—what you attract depends on your emotional state• Being "drawn" to something feels different than being "driven"—it's a magnetic pull that emerges from listening rather than forcing• Ask sacred questions like "Who am I?" or "What does my heart truly long for?" to spark deeper connection with your authentic desiresCheck out our episode on longing and the car seat meditation from Season 1 to deepen your practice of conscious creation.We transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

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• What is your deepest longing? Manifest it here!!!

  Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. The journey back to wholeness begins with understanding our deepest longings. davidji opens this profound conversation by proposing longing as our earliest post-womb memory – that immediate yearning to return to a place where everything was perfect, where our mother's heartbeat was our constant companion.Elizabeth Winkler shares how longing manifested in her life after losing her mother, revealing a universal truth: "The longing out is actually a call to go within." This simple yet revolutionary perspective transforms how we understand our cravings for connection, wholeness, and unconditional love.As the conversation unfolds, we discover that what appears to be longing for future experiences often masks our desire to recreate that primal state of being completely held and cared for. Whether it's craving a specific food that reminds us of childhood or fantasizing about an idealized family life, these yearnings point to something deeper – our search for the "four A's": attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance.The hosts introduce a powerful reframe through the acronym WOMB: Wisdom Of My Becoming. Rather than seeing the womb as merely a physical space we've left behind, they suggest we can access this "womb wisdom" within ourselves through present-moment awareness. This shift allows us to transform longing from a painful experience of lack into a doorway to self-discovery.Elizabeth shares insights from her therapy practice, illustrating how holding onto fantasies of how things "should be" prevents us from embracing the beautiful messiness of what actually is. Meanwhile, David offers practical wisdom about communication patterns that poison our relationships when we make assumptions rather than asking clarifying questions.The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder from the Bhagavad Gita: "Yogasta kuru Karmani" – "establish yourself in the present moment and then perform action". For when we're truly present, there is no fear and no longing – only the infinite possibility of becoming.Next time you feel that familiar ache of yearning, pause and ask: What wisdom is this longing trying to reveal? What am I being called to embody or create? The answer might just lead you home to yourself.Longing is embedded in humankind's DNA, stemming from our first experience of separation when we leave the womb and instantly begin craving that safe, connected state where all our needs were met.• Longing often manifests as looking outward but is actually a call to go within• Our first memories after birth may be of longing to return to the safety of the womb• Whether longing for past or future, we're seeking the memory of our wholeness• WOMB: Wisdom Of My Becoming - a way to understand the present moment's power• Fantasies of how things "should be" prevent us from embracing what actually is• Asking questions rather than making assumptions helps navigate feeling disrespected• We poison ourselves with assumptions about others' intentions toward us• Longing isn't a problem but rather shows us what we truly value and desire• The present moment is where we access unconditional love and conscious choiceRemember that longing is natural - there's no shame in it. Instead of wishing for the past or future, recognize these feelings as signposWe transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

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• The Alchemy of Pain: From Heartbreak to Healing

  Send us a text to let us know how this episode impacted you. What happens when we face our deepest betrayals—whether they're inflicted by others or emerge from our own self-betrayal? This raw, heartfelt conversation between Elizabeth and davidji explores the transformative journey from betrayal to healing, offering profound insights on reclaiming our power through pain.Elizabeth reveals how self-betrayal lies at the core of our suffering: "The ego really is just a self-betrayal. When we go into our ego, we are not being true to ourself." From perfectionism that masks deep self-loathing to ignoring our inner knowing, we betray ourselves in countless ways before we ever betray others. This perspective doesn't absolve responsibility for hurting others, but reveals the deeper healing needed.The hosts delve into why we avoid difficult truths, fearing that honesty will "change the fabric of the universe forever." This fear keeps us trapped in patterns of deception that only grow more painful with time. As Elizabeth eloquently summarizes with her powerful acronym: "Secrets hold all my energy/evolution/empathy"—S.H.A.M.E.Perhaps most moving is their exploration of lost innocence through Billy Collins' poem "On Turning Ten," capturing the universal moment when we realize "there was nothing under my skin but light" gives way to "I skin my knees. I bleed." This loss happens repeatedly throughout life with each betrayal or disappointment we face.Yet within this pain lies profound opportunity. "The wound is the way," Elizabeth reminds us. By walking through our suffering rather than around it, we can transform our deepest pains into compassion, power, and purpose. What once felt agonizing becomes, with a different understanding, the very catalyst for our healing and elevation.Ready to transform your own wounds into wisdom? Listen now and discover how the alchemy of pain can become your greatest teacher.We explore how betrayal—especially self-betrayal—can become the foundation for our greatest healing and personal growth when we're brave enough to face it directly.• Self-betrayal lies at the root of many relationship problems and forms of suffering• Perfectionism often masks deep self-loathing and becomes a form of self-betrayal• People-pleasing is self-betrayal because we're not being authentic with ourselves or others• We avoid difficult conversations because we fear shattering illusions or changing relationships forever• "Secrets hold all my energy/evolution/empathy" – an acronym for SHAME that keeps us stuck• The fear of being changed by truth-telling prevents us from healing and growing• Loss of innocence happens repeatedly throughout life with each betrayal or disappointment• Billy Collins' poem "On Turning Ten" captures the universal experience of lost innocence• We connect not through perfection but through our shared brokenness and vulnerability• "The wound is the way" – only by walking through pain can we reclaim our power and true self• Life's most painful moments can become quantum leap opportunities for transformationWe transform the world by transforming ourselves.Share this podcast with your friends, loved ones, and workmates. Visit davidji.com & elizabethwinkler.com for additional healing resources.Big shoutout to the amazing Jamar Rogers for creating such powerful music and lyrics for the official song of The Shadow & The Light Podcast!

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