Beyond Vanilla

🔞 Adults only | Open-minded conversations about swinging, relationships and the lifestyle.
40 episodes in and we're FINALLY popping our guest cherry! 🍒🔥
For the very first time on Beyond Vanilla, we're welcoming guests onto the podcast — and we're doing it in style!
Amy and Emily are taking you behind the scenes at PDI Lifestyle Club in Birmingham, where we're joined by club owners Glen & Suzanna for a proper no-holds-barred chat about life in the swinging world.
We're getting all the juicy details, including:
Why Susanna and Glenn decided to open their own lifestyle club
What makes PDI different from other clubs
How they vet potential members and keep their community safe
Their single-guy policy and what you need to know
How long they've been in the lifestyle themselves
The exciting events they've got coming up
And plenty more!
Whether you're completely new to the lifestyle, curious about visiting your first club, or already a seasoned swinger, this episode gives you a fascinating insight into what really goes on behind the doors of a lifestyle club.
And if you've been following our socials this week, you'll have seen us taking you on a little tour of PDI. Now it's time to meet the people behind it!
Real conversations. Real experiences. No gatekeeping.
Follow Beyond Vanilla Pod on Instagram and TikTok for our PDI club tours and more behind-the-scenes content.

18+ LISTENERS ONLY
Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast discussing relationships, sex, ethical non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle.
So… you’re curious about the lifestyle. Now what?
Amy C and Emily Spice go right back to the beginning and talk about what actually happens when you decide you might want to explore the swinging lifestyle.
From having those first conversations with your partner and navigating all the emotions that can come with them, to choosing apps, setting boundaries and figuring out what you’re actually comfortable with — we’re sharing what we’ve learned from our own experiences, including some of the communication mishaps we made along the way.
We also tackle single guys in the lifestyle.
From our perspective as women in couples, what makes a single guy stand out for the right reasons? How should you approach couples? What behaviours immediately put people off? And why respecting both partners, their relationship and their boundaries matters.
We discuss apps and profiles, first conversations, jealousy and unexpected emotions, communication, boundaries, respecting a “no”, mistakes beginners commonly make, and why you absolutely do not need to rush into anything.
Because getting started in the lifestyle isn't really about learning a secret set of swinging rules.
It's about learning how to communicate, knowing your own boundaries, respecting other people's — and finding a way of exploring what works for you.

18 plus only.
Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast discussing relationships, ethical non-monogamy, sexual health, lifestyle experiences and the realities of navigating non-traditional relationships. This episode contains mature discussions and is intended for listeners aged 18 and over.
Wife snatching?! What actually counts as acceptable behaviour in the lifestyle?
This week on Beyond Vanilla, we're answering another listener question and diving into the often-unspoken rules of lifestyle etiquette...
How should you actually message people in the lifestyle? What is appropriate to say, and what definitely isn't? How do you approach couples without making assumptions? And what should you do when someone makes it clear that they're not interested?
We also get into group experiences and orgy etiquette, including respecting personal space, understanding boundaries, communicating clearly and remembering that consent applies at every stage of an interaction.
Amy and Emily share some of their own experiences, including stories about messages they've received, situations where people have ignored or pushed past their boundaries, and the lessons they've learned along the way.
This is a really honest conversation about something that doesn't always get talked about enough: being a decent human being in the lifestyle.
Whether you're completely new to non-monogamy or you've been navigating the lifestyle for years, there's something here for everyone.
Listen, learn, laugh with us, and maybe rethink that message before you hit send.

18+ LISTENERS ONLY
Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast discussing relationships, ethical non-monogamy, sexual health and other mature topics. This episode contains frank discussions about adult experiences and is intended for listeners aged 18 and over.
You meet someone in the lifestyle. You have a great time. You stay in touch afterwards, talk about meeting again... and then suddenly, nothing.
Have you been ghosted? Should they have told you they weren't interested? And what actually is the etiquette after you've played with someone?
This week, we're answering a listener's question about feeling snubbed by a previous play partner who appeared keen to meet again, but the promised second meet never materialised.
Amy and Emily discuss the sometimes awkward world of after-play etiquette, communication and expectations. Does sharing an experience with someone mean you owe each other anything afterwards? Is it kinder to simply say you're no longer interested? And how do you deal with feeling rejected when they're still very much active in the lifestyle — just apparently not with you?
We also talk about not taking every rejection personally, why a great experience doesn't necessarily mean there'll be another one, and how clearer communication could save everyone a lot of unnecessary overthinking.
Plus, we answer another listener question about choosing lifestyle clubs and what we'd recommend looking for when deciding where to go.
Another honest, judgement-free conversation about the bits of the lifestyle nobody gives you a handbook for.

18+ Listener Advisory: Beyond Vanilla is intended for adults aged 18 and over and contains frank discussions about sex, sexual health, relationships and ethical non-monogamy. Listener discretion is advised.
A listener sent us a question: “How common is it for someone to ejaculate in their play partners mouth in the lifestyle — and is that considered okay?”
It opened up a much bigger conversation.
Because when it comes to swinging, there isn’t a universal rulebook for what is or isn’t okay. What one person enjoys may be completely off-limits for someone else.
In Episode 36, we talk about consent, communication and why assumptions have no place in the lifestyle.
We discuss the importance of talking about boundaries before you play, checking in with new partners, and understanding that consent to one sexual activity doesn’t automatically mean consent to another.
We also explore etiquette when playing with other people, how couples can communicate their individual boundaries, and why being comfortable saying “yes”, “no” or “not for me” is such an important part of creating safer, more enjoyable experiences.
Ultimately, the answer to “Is this okay in the lifestyle?” is often very simple:
Have you talked about it?
Have they consented to it?
And is everyone involved genuinely comfortable with it?
Another honest, judgement-free conversation from Beyond Vanilla about the questions people want answered but don't always feel comfortable asking.