The Queer Family Podcast – LGBTQ Families & Queer Parenting Stories

ARCHIVE (Recorded in 2024): Meet Shawndeez, a non-binary trans dad who shares their journey towards self-discovery and parenthood. Shawndeez discusses the challenges they faced as a queer and trans individual, their decision to pursue IVF and egg retrieval, and the importance of unconditional love in the parent-child relationship. Shawndeez also talks about their work supporting parents of trans children and the need for compassionate guidance in navigating the complexities of gender identity. Tune in for an inspiring and heartfelt conversation
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
Shawndeez's journey of self-discovery highlights the complexities of growing up queer and trans in a conservative environment and the subsequent path to embracing their true identity.
The decision to pursue reciprocal IVF, where Shawndeez provided the egg and their partner carried the pregnancy, underlines the diverse ways queer families can come about.
Shawndeez emphasizes the importance of having supportive medical professionals and a spiritually-driven mindset during their transition and fertility process.
Discussions about the emotional work that comes with navigating a trans child's experience, particularly for cisgender and heterosexual parents, underscore the need for understanding and open communication within families.
Shawndeez's current work focuses on helping parents of trans children embrace and understand their child's identity, advocating for compassion and unconditional love.

🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈
With a PhD in Gender Studies from UCLA, Shawndeez is not only thoroughly literate in topics surrounding gender and sexuality but also applies this knowledge to real-world contexts. As a trans-parent who has navigated personal and social transformations, Shawndeez now dedicates a significant portion of their work to supporting parents of trans children, helping to bridge gaps in understanding and fostering love and acceptance within families.
If you loved this conversation, share it with someone who needs it — especially a parent, grandparent, or loved one who’s trying to learn how to better support the trans young person in their life. And if you want to support the show, check out the Patreon: patreon.com/thequeerfamilypodcast.

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🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentioned
Queer midwife Marea Goodman's virtual community: Pregnant Together
Shawndeez on Instagram- @drshawndeez
Shawndeez’s website: https://www.shawndeez.com/

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This episode was recorded in 2020 and originally released under the show’s former name, If These Ovaries Could Talk. While Ranae von Meding’s family life may look a bit different today, the laws in Ireland have not meaningfully changed—and many same-sex parents are still fighting for full legal recognition and protection for their children.
At eight months pregnant, Ranae von Meding learned a shocking truth: after the birth of her child, her wife Audrey would not be legally recognized as a parent under Irish law—even though they were married, and even though Audrey is the genetic parent.
In this archival episode (recorded in 2020), Ranae shares how she and Audrey built their family through reciprocal IVF abroad, the exhausting workarounds required when care isn’t fully accessible at home, and why Irish law has left many LGBTQ+ families in precarious legal territory. She also explains what it looks like to fight back—through advocacy, organizing, and Equality for Children, a campaign centered on one core message: this is about children’s rights.
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
Marriage equality doesn’t automatically mean parental equality. In Ireland, being legally married doesn’t guarantee both parents are recognized when it comes to children.
In many cases, the birth parent is the only legal parent. Even when the non-birth parent is genetically related (using their eggs), they may still have zero legal status.
Reciprocal IVF wasn’t accessible in Ireland at the time. Ranae and Audrey had to travel abroad (Spain and Portugal), navigate complex logistics, and coordinate care at home without local fertility support.
New legislation was coming—but only for a narrow group. The criteria described would exclude many families, including Ranae’s.
Their legal action aims to amend their children’s birth certificates. The case isn’t about money—it’s about recognition and rights.
A court win could create momentum and pressure. Even if it doesn’t instantly change the law for everyone, it could force the government to respond faster and set a path others can follow.
Equality for Children became a real movement—fast. Within 24 hours of a community “call to action,” the group had a name, a website, branding support, and a public launch strategy.
This advocacy is powered by parenting. Ranae describes the specific kind of relentless strength that shows up when the stakes are your kids.

🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈
Robin Hopkins — original co-host of If These Ovaries Could Talk and interviewer for this episode.
Ranae (Renee) von Meding is a Dublin-based writer, blogger, and LGBTQ+ family advocate. She and her wife Audrey are raising their children and are the founders/organizers behind Equality for Children, a campaign pushing for full legal recognition and protections for children of LGBTQ+ parents in Ireland.

🗂️ Archival Note
This episode was originally released under the show’s former name. Audio quality, sponsor ads, and cultural context reflect the time in which it was recorded.

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🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentioned
Follow Ranae on Instagram
Family Equality

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This episode originally aired back when the show was called If These Ovaries Could Talk, hosted by Jaimie Kelton and Robin Hopkins — before the show evolved into The Queer Family Podcast.
Over the years, I’ve had countless listeners reach out asking the same thing: “Can you connect me with Emily and Sara? I want to learn how they shipped fresh sperm.” So I’m resurfacing this conversation because yes — it can work. And since this episode first aired, Emily and Sara have helped many others create their families using the same method.
In this archival episode, Emily and Sara share the truly unforgettable story of how they made a baby by shipping fresh sperm to Northern Canada, using test yolk buffer, precise temperature control, and the kind of coordination that can only come from a very committed family — including Sara’s brother Justin, one of her quadruplet siblings and their known donor.
Between COVID travel restrictions, cargo flights to remote communities, DIY temperature experiments, and more than a few logistical curveballs, this episode is equal parts educational, funny, stressful, and deeply hopeful.
🗂️ Archival Note
This episode was originally released under the show’s former name. Audio quality, sponsor ads, and cultural context reflect the time in which it was recorded.
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
Shipping fresh sperm can work, even over long distances and to remote locations.
Temperature control mattered more than anything — success came after dialing in the ideal range (cold, but not frozen).
Test yolk buffer helped preserve sperm viability during transit.
Cargo and courier shipping require flexibility, backup plans, and patience.
Emily tracked ovulation carefully (BBT + ovulation strips) and they inseminated across multiple days to cover timing variability.
A strong support system — aka the village — made all the difference.
Known donor arrangements can be deeply positive when communication, trust, and legal clarity are in place.

🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s) 🏳️‍🌈
Robin Hopkins — original co-host of If These Ovaries Could Talk and interviewer for this episode.
Emily & Sara (cis women, both identify as queer)
Plus a bonus clip from Justin (donor) explaining how temperature tracking helped make the successful shipment possible.

🏳️‍🌈 Legal & Parentage (Canada-Specific)🏳️‍🌈
Emily and Sara discuss working with a lawyer to create a known donor agreement, and navigating province-by-province differences in parentage laws. Requirements vary, and they emphasize the importance of understanding local regulations.

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As we head into a new year, we’re revisiting a very special episode — and carrying those Pride vibes forward with us.
This episode originally aired as the finale of our very first Pride Extravaganza, where all month long (and a little beyond) we doubled up on Queer Family goodness with incredible guests and powerful stories.
For this grand finale, I asked every single Pride Extravaganza guest one simple but loaded question:
What does Pride mean to you?
What you’ll hear is a moving compilation — a beautiful quilt of voices reflecting on Pride as visibility, self-love, family, community, resistance, joy, responsibility, and hope. These answers will absolutely give you the feels.
Let this episode be your reminder as we move forward together:
Pride is every day.
Stay proud of who you are.
Stay proud of your differences.
Stay proud of your uniqueness.
And keep showing up — unapologetically.
We’re here. We’re queer. We make families. And we make beautiful, intentional families.
Happy Pride — always. 🌈✨

🗂️ Archival Note
This episode originally aired as Season 12, Episode 13, closing out the show’s first-ever Pride Extravaganza. Audio quality, format, and language reflect the time it was recorded.

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Before The Queer Family Podcast had its name, it began as If These Ovaries Could Talk—a show Jaimie launched with original co-host Robin Hopkins.
In this very first episode, Robin interviews Jaimie and her wife Anne as they share the real-time story of building their family as a lesbian couple: unexpected infertility, choosing a sperm donor, navigating IUI and IVF, and the emotional and financial reality of trying to have a second child.
At the time, they couldn’t find many podcasts that talked honestly about queer fertility and LGBTQ+ family building—so they made the show they needed.
This is an archival re-release of the episode that started it all, capturing the very beginning: pregnant, overwhelmed, hopeful, and figuring it out as they went.
Archival note: Originally released as Episode 1 of If These Ovaries Could Talk (Pre-TQFP). Audio quality and language reflect the time it was recorded.
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
Queer infertility is real—and often invisible.
Even without a medical diagnosis, lesbian couples can face long, emotionally taxing fertility journeys.
Fertility treatment isn’t linear.
IUI, IVF, switching doctors, and starting over are often part of the process—not signs of failure.
The donor search can become overwhelming.
What starts as practical decision-making can quickly turn emotional, ethical, and financially complex.
This conversation didn’t exist yet—so we created it.
The podcast began because queer families weren’t hearing their stories reflected anywhere else.

🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈
Robin Hopkins — original co-host of If These Ovaries Could Talk and interviewer for this episode.
Jaimie and Anne are a married couple living in New York City. They’ve been together for 17 years and married for 13, and are raising their two children (plus their dog). During their own journey through infertility, fertility treatment, and donor conception, Jaimie realized she couldn’t find honest, relatable conversations about queer family building—so she decided to create the show she wished had existed.

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