LAUNCH: Parenting Tips for Raising Adult Children & Building Better Relationships

When adult children struggle to handle stress, responsibility, or uncertainty, parents want to know how to help them. But what if the most powerful influence isn’t what parents say or do for their adult children, but how they manage themselves?In this episode of LAUNCH, I’m joined by Dr. Kate Lund, licensed clinical psychologist, resilience expert, TEDx speaker and best-selling author, for a conversation that shifts the focus where it belongs. We talk how adult children learn resilience by watching how their parents handle pressure, uncertainty, and discomfort, importance of being optimized and an excellent suggestion that anyone can start doing right away.In her book Step Away, Kate Lund explores how resilience is built not through control, protection, or constant involvement, but through how parents manage their own stress, emotions, and reactions. The book challenges parents to step away from overfunctioning, emotional reactivity, and the urge to fix, and instead focus on strengthening their own capacity to tolerate discomfort, uncertainty, and imperfection.Step Away emphasizes that children of all ages can learn resilience by watching how their parents respond to stress, setbacks, and pressure. By learning to regulate themselves, parents model the very skills their children need to develop, including coping, problem-solving, and emotional flexibility. Dr. Kate’s book offers a framework for staying emotionally available and supportive, while stepping back from patterns that unintentionally weaken resilience and independence.Remember to hit the follow button and please share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.As always, thank you for listening!💻 Shari's Parenting Course is now OPEN for REGISTRATION! “Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.” For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse 🎉 Just Released! Understanding Boundaries: 25 Ready-to-Use Boundary-Setting Statements The Every Parent Needs CLICK HERE if you Want to Discover the Secret to Finally Getting Your Adult Child to Listen & Respect You! It's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it that will make the BIGGEST impact. ________________________________________________________________________________________________ Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here: 🗣️One-on-One Consultations are available. Click here! Email me if you have any questions at: [email protected] 🎙️Remember to hit the SUBSCRIBE button so you never miss an episode. Shari can be found on Instagram & TikTok Search @sharijonaslifefx YouTube has all of the interviews available to watch! C...

Do you want to know why you can't set boundaries without coming across as controlling, bossy or even disappointed? It's because with every attempt, it sounds like you're trying to tell them what to do, which drives them nuts, so you've given up. The problem is that most parents confuse boundaries with rules or  threats and that's exactly why they don't work. But I have the solution. If you've tried setting boundaries with your adult children only to be ignored, dismissed, or met with pushback, this episode is exactly what you've been searching for. I'll explain why your boundaries aren't working, what message you're sending when you don't uphold them, and how to shift from avoiding conflict at all costs to using peaceful statements to express what you value, which will make the most transformational impact, not just on you and your relationship but on your adult child's future.If you want the exact language to use, so the words you choose bring you the respect and the results you want, my new mini booklet "Understanding Boundaries," which includes 25 guilt-free boundary-setting statements that every parents needs, is now available. www.parentingfx.com/boundariesPlease remember to hit the follow button so you never miss an episode, and share this with another parent who needs to hear it.As always, thank you for listening!💻 Shari's Parenting Course is now OPEN for REGISTRATION! “Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.” For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse 🎉 Just Released! Understanding Boundaries: 25 Ready-to-Use Boundary-Setting Statements The Every Parent Needs CLICK HERE if you Want to Discover the Secret to Finally Getting Your Adult Child to Listen & Respect You! It's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it that will make the BIGGEST impact. ________________________________________________________________________________________________ Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here: 🗣️One-on-One Consultations are available. Click here! Email me if you have any questions at: [email protected] 🎙️Remember to hit the SUBSCRIBE button so you never miss an episode. Shari can be found on Instagram & TikTok Search @sharijonaslifefx YouTube has all of the interviews available to watch! C...

If your adult child says, "I'm an adult, you can't tell me what to do" while living rent-free under your roof, doing absolutely nothing with their life, and expecting you to take care of everything – this episode might be exactly what you need.This deeply flawed and delusional statement gets thrown in the faces of kind-hearted parents who feel powerless to respond without triggering days of silent treatments.Let’s be honest. Adulthood is not something you declare because you're over 18. It's something you demonstrate through responsibility, contribution, self-management along with having life skills, life experiences, and emotional maturity.If you're tired of walking on eggshells in your own home, if you want to reclaim your confidence and finally set the record straight so your adult child never says “I’m an adult you can’t tell me what to do” until the day they finally are – this episode gives you the exact words you need.It's time to level up your parenting and help your adult child move toward real independence.P.S For anyone interested in having the exact script, check the transcript section of the podcast you’re listening to. If you can’t find it, email [email protected], type the word SCRIPT in the subject, and the word-for-word script will be sent to your inbox. Remember to hit the SUBSCRIBE button so you never miss an episode and please share this with someone who needs to hear it. Thank you for listening!💻 Shari's Parenting Course is now OPEN for REGISTRATION! “Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.” For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse 🎉 Just Released! Understanding Boundaries: 25 Ready-to-Use Boundary-Setting Statements The Every Parent Needs CLICK HERE if you Want to Discover the Secret to Finally Getting Your Adult Child to Listen & Respect You! It's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it that will make the BIGGEST impact. ________________________________________________________________________________________________ Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here: 🗣️One-on-One Consultations are available. Click here! Email me if you have any questions at: [email protected] 🎙️Remember to hit the SUBSCRIBE button so you never miss an episode. Shari can be found on Instagram & TikTok Search @sharijonaslifefx YouTube has all of the interviews available to watch! C...

Have you've ever wondered if your relationship with your parents shaped how you show up as a parent today? If so, you'll find this episode very interesting. I sat down with Marc Cameron, author of Understanding Your Attachment Style: The Path to Overcoming Unhelpful Patterns and Building Healthy Secure Relationships to explore how parents attachment patterns shape their relationships with their children. Attachment theory explains how our earliest relationships shape the way we connect, communicate, and respond emotionally throughout life. In this episode, Marc shares with us that our individual attachment style plays a crucial role in the quality of our relationships and is often the strongest predictor of how secure and connected we feel with others. Yet, many people remain unaware of their own attachment style - let alone how to shift from an unhealthy style to one that fosters safer, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. Marc and I talk about the 5 insecure attachment styles and how each one can affect a parent’s behavior. We also explore the concept of attunement and why it plays such a powerful role in connecting with your adult child. In his private practice, Marc helps clients develop secure emotional connections and greater awareness. He believes that when we understand the root causes of behavior through attachment theory, meaningful growth becomes possible, not only for us, but for our  future generations as well. This conversation will helps parents better understand their own patterns, recognize what may be getting in the way, and learn that is possible to develop a more secure attachment to strengthen the relationship with their children and support them along their path toward independence. Take the Attachment Quiz to discover how your early life experiences shaped your Love Style and begin working towards a powerful and lasting change. The link is here as well as Marc's book  - https://howwelove.com/About Marc CameronMarc is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Author, Speaker, Radio cohost, and Attachment specialist who helps people transform their relationships through secure connection. Connect with Marc - https://howwelove.com/contact-us/Remember to hit💻 Shari's Parenting Course is now OPEN for REGISTRATION! “Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.” For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse 🎉 Just Released! Understanding Boundaries: 25 Ready-to-Use Boundary-Setting Statements The Every Parent Needs CLICK HERE if you Want to Discover the Secret to Finally Getting Your Adult Child to Listen & Respect You! It's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it that will make the BIGGEST impact. ________________________________________________________________________________________________ Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here: 🗣️One-on-One Consultations are available. Click here! Email me if you have any questions at: [email protected] 🎙️Remember to hit the SUBSCRIBE button so you never miss an episode. Shari can be found on Instagram & TikTok Search @sharijonaslifefx YouTube has all of the interviews available to watch! C...

If your adult child is easily overwhelmed, has poor communication skills, struggles with most adulting responsibilities, is unwilling to leave their room and go out into the world, emotional intelligence may be the missing piece. In this episode, we break down what emotional intelligence is, how to recognize the signs in your adult, and what you can do to manage it, for yourself and for them.You will learn why their reactions often feel disproportionate or personal, and what the research shows you can do to help your adult child build the emotional skills they need to move forward in life. We talk about co-regulation, emotional awareness, stress tolerance, naming emotions, and how your approach can either escalate conflict or create the emotional safety needed for growth. If you want a calmer home, with pleasant communication, where you can make real progress toward helping them become more emotionally mature, confident and independent, this episode will give you the tools and insight to begin that shift today. Remember to hit the follow button so you never miss an episode and as always, thank you for listening!💻 Shari's Parenting Course is now OPEN for REGISTRATION! “Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.” For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse 🎉 Just Released! Understanding Boundaries: 25 Ready-to-Use Boundary-Setting Statements The Every Parent Needs CLICK HERE if you Want to Discover the Secret to Finally Getting Your Adult Child to Listen & Respect You! It's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it that will make the BIGGEST impact. ________________________________________________________________________________________________ Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here: 🗣️One-on-One Consultations are available. Click here! Email me if you have any questions at: [email protected] 🎙️Remember to hit the SUBSCRIBE button so you never miss an episode. Shari can be found on Instagram & TikTok Search @sharijonaslifefx YouTube has all of the interviews available to watch! C...