The Worst Girl Gang Ever

We're taking it back to basics Lads... 
This week Bex & Laura take on a couple of questions from the community around sharing loss stories - when is the right time? How do we advocate while protecting our wellbeing? and how to navigate the fear of judgement. 
There's also some singing and some laughter - although Bex's rendition of 'Earth song' was so bad that our editing software recognised it as unwanted background noise so we're afraid that didn't make it to the final cut - she's happy to voice note anyone who wants it. 
If you have any questions for the next 'community questions' episode, please email them over to us at [email protected] - with 'community questions' in the subject line. You can ask anything at all - about us, the work we do or how to navigate certain situations - nothing is off limits! 
Also, we mention our lovely friends Shaun & Kieran over at NeXYs fertility - you can find them @themalefertilitypodcast & @nexysfertility on instagram - a fantastic support for men & all things male fertility. 
Ciao for now xxx
We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

In this episode, we sit down with Nicola and her dad Steve for a heartfelt conversation about their journey through miscarriage, infertility, and the lasting impact loss can have on families. Together they share their personal experiences, the challenges they’ve faced, and why open conversations and community support are so important when navigating grief.
Steve talks about how loss has affected him as a parent and grandparent, and why he wanted to do something meaningful to support families going through similar experiences.
Steve is currently fundraising by taking on an incredible challenge throughout March. He is running 5km every day during the week and 10km on weekend days, and last Sunday he completed the Cambridge Half Marathon alongside Nicola and her husband Emmet. His challenge is all about raising awareness and vital funds to support families affected by baby loss.
If you’d like to support Steve’s fundraising efforts, you can find his page here:
 https://www.justgiving.com/page/steve-banting-3

This episode is a powerful reminder that loss touches whole families, and that talking about it openly can help create the understanding, support, and community so many people need.
We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

Hold. Hope. 
We send you all love this International Women's Day and always. 
We know your struggle, we see your tears. 
Things wont always be this way. 
Hold hope. 
All our love, 
Bex & Laura xxx
We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

Trigger Warning - Pregnancy after loss. 
In this episode, Alex returns to the podcast (last seen S8 E16) to talk openly about life after loss. She shares her experience of recurrent miscarriages and what it was really like to step back into pregnancy carrying grief, fear, and hope all at the same time.
Alex reflects on the emotional toll of trying again - the constant worry, the anxiety that never quite switches off, and the careful ways she learned to protect herself while still allowing room for hope. She speaks honestly about the coping strategies that helped her get through the hardest moments, and how vital support from others was when everything felt overwhelming.
This conversation is a reminder that pregnancy after loss is rarely straightforward. It’s about finding balance, holding onto small positives, and allowing yourself to feel everything - without guilt or expectation.

💬 Key Takeaways

Alex experienced six recurrent miscarriages between 2021 and 2023, each one leaving its own mark.
She sought answers and support through both NHS care and private specialists.
The waiting, especially for test results, carried a huge emotional weight.
During pregnancy, Alex found comfort in distraction, throwing herself into politics and learning a new language.
Support from the Rainbow Clinic played a crucial role in helping her feel held and understood.
Around the 20-week scan, Alex noticed a quiet but meaningful shift in her mindset.
Gratitude became an anchor, focusing on the joys already present in her life.
She shares the unexpected and beautiful bond between her daughters, despite their age gap.
Coping meant leaning into supportive friendships and grounding activities.
Alex hopes that by sharing her story, others facing similar journeys might feel a little less alone and a little more hopeful.
We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

💔 Episode Summary

In this episode, Marj shares her deeply personal story of miscarriage and secondary infertility, a journey marked by repeated loss while trying to grow her family for a second time.
She speaks openly about experiencing ten losses, including chemical pregnancies and an ectopic pregnancy, and what it has been like to carry that grief while still showing up as a mum to her daughter. Marj reflects on the emotional toll of living in constant uncertainty, the strain and strength it brought to her relationship, and how vital it was to reach out for help, especially during lockdown when everything felt even heavier.
Throughout the conversation, Marj emphasises the power of community and the importance of talking about loss, even when it feels impossibly hard. She shares how her mindset has shifted over time, moving slowly towards acceptance and learning how to live alongside grief while still holding space for hope.
This episode is a reminder that secondary infertility can feel deeply isolating, that loss does not cancel out gratitude for the child you have, and that healing does not mean forgetting. It means finding a way forward, together.

💬 Key Takeaways

Marj’s journey through miscarriage has been long, painful, and ongoing.
She has experienced ten losses, including chemical pregnancies and an ectopic pregnancy.
Reaching out for support was essential, particularly during lockdown.
Mindset can shape how we survive loss, even when it does not remove the pain.
Community support helped Marj feel less alone in her grief.
Parenting while grieving brings its own complex challenges.
Loss tested Marj’s relationship and ultimately strengthened it.
Speaking openly about her experiences became part of her healing.
Talking about loss helps break shame and silence.
Acceptance came slowly and continues to evolve.
We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk